What is something your father or mother has done during your childhood that is unforgivable?

My mother and father both did unforgiveable things to me while I was growing up. I won't ever forget but I can let go of the anger. I have forgiven them so that I can move on in life and not be crippled by the past.

My mom made me throw my Ninja Turtle figures away when I was 6 or 7. They were my favorite things in the world, but apparently there was "too much Eastern religion in the show" for her liking.

I've been buying them back for myself as of late, and it's nice. :)

I could fill a book with the things my father did to people including me. The worst that affected me was killing my mother. He’s dead & I gave it to God to sort out.

Gave me the belt for forgetting how to spell a word.

This question is very difficult for me to answer.
BOTH of my parents have done things what I NEVER can forget!

My mother is a really, really nice and good person and the two things she did and I cannot forget... - let´s say she didn´t know it better.

And my father? He has rejected me from up day 1 I was born and has done some things which actually should be unforgivable. He slapt me although I was still a baby, and threw a knife to my 8 years old brother. He is stuttering because of that until today...

But on the other site my father was ill. And my mother tried her best to handle his illness, but when she couldn´t handle it anymore she left him to protect us kids.

So I think there´s nothing unforgivable. Not to my mother who tried everything to protect us, and not to my father, who was just a very poor and ill man... 🤔😞

Abused me.

killed the dog we had since i was 5

Nothing really, they were pretty much fine. Woulda been nice if they had let me figure out who I am instead of trying to shoehorn me into their own identity.

Sample 3

Before my father died, he had his lawyer find me to reestablish contact. He wanted to mend fences before his death.

I agreed to meet. We reviewed the will in which I was to receive the family business, the estate in CT, it’s contents and all but a small amount of cash designated for my sister’s living children.

Every couple weeks I’d visit him (he lived in another state). It soon became apparent that he was spending many thousands monthly more than his income from his assets and the business. It seemed to be coming from a fixation with his live in care and young nurses. When I commented, he just got angry. His nurses claimed he kept asking them to marry him. Of course he wasn’t going to listen to me and eventually cancelled my visits.

Months passed and one nurse gave me a call. She felt guilty not telling me that my father had died weeks ago. He’d kept his pact with my mother that I not be told of his death.

Fast forward. I get the will in the mail, certified. It wasn’t the original. There’s a second will in which I’m excluded, by name, from all assets of the family...even though I’m the only living child. Thus, it’s basically not contestable.

The final parting shot - from the grave.

But, unforgivable? No. In death, I’m sure they realized the error of their ways.

I smile happily every day because I had to learn that love comes from within. It can’t be taken away. Hate has no place in life. 🙂
In failing, my parents gave me the greatest lesson they could bestow.

I found the cost of having unforgivable actions by my Mother and Father was too high. They grew in my heart as big blockers in other relationships. So I decided to forgive them and it opened a new world for me.

Sample 2

My family owned a business which they wanted me to run and expand, so I left my job on Wall St to help them out. Contracts were written to assure there was a business plan and a reasonable compensation plan.

As the second business I was running became very successful, they refused to honor the predesignated compensation plan and refused to let me run both companies as a whole.

They wanted to live quite well without concern for me and my family. Ultimately, we reached an impasse, either you pay me fairly as designed, or I go out on my own.

They refused and I opened my own business. As a show of spite, they reported me to the IRS and sued me (in court). I made it through the IRS audit unscathed and won the court case easily. The only blemish was the attorney’s bills.

Still angered, all they could do was to choose to never speak to me again, including my sister who wasn’t even part of the business.

My mother and sister both died (on separate occasions) without ever speaking to me. I wasn’t even told of their deaths by my father. A vendor told me about my mother’s death by accident two months after it happened. My aunt broke down and told me about my sister’s death three weeks after the funeral.

Such is life.

When I didn't want to join their religion, I got kicked out of home at 16 and disowned.

This one was bad, but I forgave them once I grew up and understood why....One threw away my college acceptance letter on purpose to my school of choice. So I thought I was only accepted to my backup school and that I was just stupid for not getting in. They had BAD empty nest syndrome and didn’t want me to move that far away.

Some things are better left unsaid. Don't press for details.

Father did nothing unforgivable.

Mother is a different story. She is a narcissist and treated me horribly my whole life.

I was very lucky... I was child number 3 so they got all their mistakes on kid number 1) and 2) then I came along I thought my parents were perfect. Sounds silly but true.

Unforgivable? Nothing.
Everything can be forgiven, even the worst things.

Didn't believe me

Sample 1

They used to be really tough about grades even though I’d never received a grade below a “B” in my life. One semester, with primarily all Honors level courses, I received straight A’s & A+’s. When we met in the kitchen to review my grades, they had nothing to complain about, so they threw my grades in the trash and excused me.

I got mentally abused and my mum kept screaming at me why don’t you like my boyfriend ? Why ? In front of her all the time and she was too dumb to see what was happening finally she got rid of him when I turned 19. I forgive her but I’m still traumatised from all the fucked Up stuff I was told to do and called and being badly isolated from everyone. And my dad used to beat me really so yeah I still love my dad , hes now mentality abusive but I like to think he’s just mentally ill and undiagnosed. And my mum was very absent throughout my life and childhood. I don’t hate my parents I love them both but I’m a badly traumatised wreckage and I’m really mentally unstable but I love absolutely intensively and I give everything to people I love or care about.

A weird form of abuse and I wouldn't say the other thing is traumatizing but I hate drunk sing alongs to oldies and 80s music because it reminds me of my dad. Ugh!

Nothing. It's nobody's fault they are the way they are and that I am the way I am. I would be a much worse parent than they are anyway so who am I to judge? If I had such kid as I was I wouldn't know what to do either.

My mom married my step dad and never left even though he and his family have always treated me like garbage. She’s never done anything

They were busy working all the time to make us a good living. They did the good living but they didn't know much about me growing up.

Nothing..

But to be forgiven one must first acknowledge their wrong and ask for forgiveness..

I can think of nothing. I'm fortunate to have had great, supportive parents. :)

Hmmmm. I’m getting nothing. They were great parents.

Didn’t support my political career

I managed to forgive my mother. It wasn't easy.

Absolutely nothing!

They did a good job

My parents had kids to fulfill a familial obligation and not 'cause they actually wanted them; they never really hid that from us either...

...and yeah, I'm [b][i]still[/i][/b] kinda bitter LOL

Idk I can’t really think of anything they did that was unforgivable.

Not help me in school cus mine were dummer than even me...

Nothing, they made mistakes they’re are not their mistakes 🌹

Had good parents growing up.

Suppressed my dreams