I Am So Emotionally Tired

@Hereonceagain @JoyfulSilence I know what you mean. the worst is Im married and love my husband , would never physically cheat on him, but clearly im emotionally cheating, it's been 2 years now that Im feeling this way and it sickens me, I need to stop, just don't now how, can't let go. But I know its gonna hurt even more once I see how happy he is with his girlfriend and see pictures of them together.

Thank you everyone, its so difficult because he has gone into a relationship and Im facebook friends with him, its so hard to either delete him or deactivate my facebook account, just dont know how Im gonna control my emotions when i see pictures of them together etc :(

Great comments earlier!!! Find your passion back either be mental or physical activities. Make yourself busy with friends and family. OMG I have just passed that time a few weeks ago LOL :D It has never been easy but you can do it and you may still have healthy attachment. Good Luck!

@Sutton
This would be ideal for you, Sutton: Byron Katie's "Four questions". check it out on the net.


http://thework.com/en/do-work

http://www.oprah.com/spirit/byron-katies-four-questions

@Sutten,I understood your position. I have been almost the other woman once and I have just realized myself that I can love 2 guys at the same time sincerely.But I made a conscious decision and I chose one for life. I am still trying to pull myself back from hurting myself and people around me.Please do not blame yourself.It is ok to make mistakes in life. Now I am trying to break my records of fitness routines, reading books, taking classes,etc. Honestly I am trying to use up all my energy and extra time for him and getting happier in doing so. I believe I'll get over it very soon.

Find another to be emotionally attached too. I am like you now about somebody I cannot be with. It is hard to move on.

I have a crush on a married woman who calls me a great friend. Ugh. I cannot stop chatting with her, though, because she is so nice to me. Ugh.

@JoyfulSilence yup im a great friend to a married guy. I hate my position

@Sutten,All moves depend on your personality type.For me, I cut him out completely for more than 3 times.It takes longer and longer each time and I am now completely ok to be around him in my contact. Just keep trying...I see myself like a crazy woman but who cares as long as it is good for me and my loved one..:)

@annie616pop Thank-you will check it out :)

Im going through the same thing. Im spending time working and working on myself, staying busy and trying to take care of myself and do new things. It's hard but just realize they're not perfect and just give yourself some time. Soon you'll think of them a little bit less each day

I feel like maybe I should delete him from facebook & Instagram or completely deactivate my accounts, but then I know I will drive myself crazy not being able to check what's happening in his life. I feel like im losing control at times.

Time apart.. :/

@Whyacinth sometimes i just feel the only way the pain will stop is i I was just not here anymore to experience it, its been this way for just over 2 years now, starting to think Im in so deep I cant get out.

@Sutten,Social media, online, outside and all. It is only my way and not advisable to all.It took 2 years for offline relationship and 2 months for online with lots of tears of course..

@Whyacinth that's going to be difficult for me as I don't have friends and not really close to my family, which gives my mind enough time to overthink.

:( it takes time... One day you'll get to the point when you realise you haven't thought about this person in a while.

Hope that day comes soon for you.

@Whyacinth what do you mean by cutting him out, how do you do that, do you see him daily or have contact on social media?

It's not easy and takes time.