What experience taught you to be more selfish?

When I realised that people won't be by your side despite you doing so much for them. I ended up being alone and that was when it hit me that I had to learn to be selfish.

No ,you need to look before you leap .
ask yourself ,am I enabling ,or helping .
Christ didn't just feed people ,he said to teach them to fish .
But he also said ,when we help the least of his ,we help him too .

My kids said "Dad you taught us to help people ,but you never told us when to stop " or when not to help .
First off I give if I have it to give ,and I ask nothing in return .
Then if its repaid ,then its there to help someone else ,a blessing .
If not ,I can't be disappointed ,I gave it to them .

But ,I am wiser now as to who to help ,and who to teach to fish .
That only comes from experience ,
But the rule of thumb is if you are helping ,or enabling .
We never enable anyone ..thats not helping .

The time I paid for a girl's drinks because her friend died and then she and her friend proceeded to ignore me and pay attention to some guy who was deliberately being an asshole to everyone.

People I'd helped out, like gone out on a limb for and sacrificed a lot for, turned out to be liars. This happened on more than one occasion.

I've been selfish since I was born.

Hey, welcome back 👋🏻

Being introverted & got mild to moderate carpal tunnel so I healed it. Alone time & self care are good forms of selfishness.