What experience taught you to be more selfish?

I'm currently pretty frustrated. A lot of it is with myself. I feel like I'm doing too many favors for others and putting my life on pause. I need to learn to be more selfish.

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Beatbox34 · 31-35, M Best Comment

When I realised that people won't be by your side despite you doing so much for them. I ended up being alone and that was when it hit me that I had to learn to be selfish.

NoThankYou

@Beatbox34 Damn, that really resonates with me.

Beatbox34 · 31-35, M

@NoThankYou This is the truth in life. The more you do for others, the more lonelier we get.

Thank you for the BC. I hope you feel better soon.

rckt148 · 61-69, M

No ,you need to look before you leap .
ask yourself ,am I enabling ,or helping .
Christ didn't just feed people ,he said to teach them to fish .
But he also said ,when we help the least of his ,we help him too .

My kids said "Dad you taught us to help people ,but you never told us when to stop " or when not to help .
First off I give if I have it to give ,and I ask nothing in return .
Then if its repaid ,then its there to help someone else ,a blessing .
If not ,I can't be disappointed ,I gave it to them .

But ,I am wiser now as to who to help ,and who to teach to fish .
That only comes from experience ,
But the rule of thumb is if you are helping ,or enabling .
We never enable anyone ..thats not helping .

NoThankYou

@rckt148 This is a really good piece of advice. I'm going to try my best to take it to heart and live by this advice. I feel like that distinction is important and I think that's my error in thinking. I'm enabling others and need to stop.

assemblingaknob · 26-30, F

@rckt148 "am I enabling, or helping" that's useful. Thanks for sharing!

SinlessOnslaught · 26-30, M

The time I paid for a girl's drinks because her friend died and then she and her friend proceeded to ignore me and pay attention to some guy who was deliberately being an asshole to everyone.