I Was Molested - and I Never Told

I was eleven and it was my friend’s father. I never told either, because I knew my parents would never let me see her again. So I resolved that we’d only have sleepovers at my home, and never saw him after that. In high school she and I drifted apart. I later wondered how safe she had been with him..

There are a lot of things in every life that could've been handled better. But we can't live in the past. Best to apply the lessons we've learned to our present and future. And forgive ourselves for what we cannot change.

Sometimes it is better not to say anything

When I was 10 years old, a teacher at my school molested me (and another girl in my class). I DID tell and nothing much was done about it. And I was sternly told to shut up about it and never discuss it again with anybody. To the school's credit, the teacher was fired. I assume he just got a job at another school and went right on molesting girls. I had nightmares about him for several years.

I never told either. Not until a couple of years ago and I don’t know how telling would have changed my situation

I was from the age of 6 until I was 10 by a neighbor. He moved away when I was 10 . I never told my parents .to be honest I didn't know what had happened was a bad thing because my parents never had that " good touch bad touch " talk . It wasn't until I was 15 that I had realized what had happened was basically child abuse . I thought he was my boyfriend when I was a little kid . You don't know what you don't know . It's so messed up.

It started at 5 and this man worked on my grandpa’s farm so he was trusted. My dad and grandpa would leave me alone with him while they went to fix things.

What makes it worse is this man did the same thing to my mother from the age of 2 years to 15 years old. She never told and knew my dad left me with him.

This man lives across the street from me. I can look out my window and see him in his yard.

I never told anyone either. Had a profound effect on my sexual development.
I don’t know how different things might have been but I do know that it wasn’t my fault just as I hope that you know that it wasn’t your fault either. 🤗

I never told either x

I was also sexually harrassed but i never openly talk about it

It's not your fault and I am sorry that happened to you

This was a very brave thing to admit. Thank you for your courage🤞

I am so sorry for the messages I have previously posted to you.

None of what happened to you was your fault in any way.

You had a powerful adult using you and telling you to do things (even if it didn't feel that way). He was only after what he wanted. Unfortunately, he chose to sue you and didn;t care about the consequences for you.

I am so sorry this happened to you . Please talk to someone or it will affect the rest of your life . Someone qualified in mental health who can advise you on how to cope and put this behind you and have a happy future .

Therapy does work pleasee try it i know!

So was i and I never mentioned it

Don't do that to yourself that's definitely not your fault. You was young child that's all on him he's a sick Individual

I was too. It lasted a while. I felt like if I ever said anything people would have thought I was gay. It was in the 80's.

It was never your fault the other person has the problem not you.
Talking will hopefully help you.

First of its definitely not your fault and it will make a difference

Im so sorry you went through that.

I am so sorry hon

When I was a little girl, I had an incident. Like you, I felt guilt and shame. That kept me from saying anything for years. It's normal to feel that way, especially when you're too young to understand everything. You were confused and innocent. You have absolutely nothing to be ashamed of. You are precious, and will grow into an beautiful, strong young woman with the knowledge and power to protect others from ever experiencing the same thing. Never doubt yourself, your inner strength, or your worth. You may not be able to change the past, but you have the power to make your present and your future anything you aim for :) *hugs*

Victims often blame themselves. It is why people get away with it. But you never were at fault.

It was not your fault, never blame yourself for that.

It's not your fault. And you have nothing to be ashamed of. What could have, should have been is in the past. Try to get help for your today and tomorrow. Sorry for what you had to go through.

Ok. Your doing ok. Know this, your not damaged goods, your a precious young girl who has strength you dont even know. And the process now, is to remove the control that this event has over you. Take back that control that your dad took away. Hes no longer your authority.
You deserve the best in life now. Look in the mirror, and tell yourself that your ok, and your beautiful and things are going to be ok.

Had you told the right people, I think things could have been different for YOU, maybe not for the one or ones who molested you. But through therapy, you could come to see you're not guilty for anything and it wasn't your fault.

Sorry you had to go through that. It's hard to deal with. I know because I was molested when I was just 14. I still haven't told anyone either.

Kimber it is the job of parents to provide support and direction for their children. Your father betrayed the trust children should have in their parents. My uncle sexually abused his daughter (my cousin) - it is never the fault of the child, it is always the fault of the adult - my cousin eventually told her mum when an adult. If you can find somebody whom you feel you can trust, and can talk to, I think it will be helpful for you. Take care of yourself - regards Henry

If you ever need to talk I'm here for you, sorry that happened to you.

Seems you were too young to tell others , so you did right thing.

That's horrible that something like that would happen to anybody, especially a sweet beautiful girl like you. It's normal to feel guilty but hopefully you understand that no matter what u feel it wasn't ur fault! I'm sure you'll get thru it and come out stronger for it. I'm always here if you'd like to chat or talk about anything or vent... just lemme know *hugs*

It's not your fault.

I don't know if it would have made a big difference in your life but sharing sometimes helps to erase bad memories.

Common for victims to blame themselves, not your fault. Things would be different if you told but maybe not better.

Really sorry to hear this. It's never too late for your justice. They stole something from you and left a scar.

I was also (family friend) and spoke of it for the first time five years ago

I can completely relate to that

You should have. But at ur age To whome !!!

I never told anyone what happened to me and that was 36 years ago. I’m not sure how different things would be had I told someone but I try not to dwell on that, I just try and do what I did most of my life and forget about it.

Me too

By male or female mine was a male I was 7

Sorry to hear about your suffering, dear. You should have voiced it out to either law and order authorities or your parents at least!...😔...Hugs!...🤗

Tell someone now .... someone you trust ... but share it and don't let it burden you ... you are innocent! x