I Was Molested - and I Never Told

[b][c=666666]First of all this is like PTSD. You may have that. I had it before and the way I got free of it was to tell myself the truth! You must tell yourself the truth. You were victimized here. Tell yourself the truth and KEEP telling yourself the truth. Every time you get a thought in your head that it was your fault, when subconsciously you know it was not, tell yourself the truth and refuse to believe a lie. The truth is what will set you free. What is the truth?

Did you purposely go to meet him, only to be abused? NO!

Did you give him permission to touch you? NO!

Did you tell him to touch you? NO!

Did you want him to touch you? NO!

Now that you know the truth, you can stop blaming yourself and punishing yourself for not knowing what to do at that time. You were not a volunteer. You were a victim. You were victimIZED! There's no way it could have been your fault. If you don't tell yourself the truth, guilt will eat at you, but now that you know the truth, you can kick guilt out the door! It does not have to control you, if you do not allow it. Don't give it permission to haunt you. You were very young and at that age your mind is not equipped to handle or process adult activities. So you were confused and scared and you didn't know what to do. That's normal.

That's the way it happens with any child. And it bothers you more because you had no closure to it and you didn't know how since you were afraid to tell, but you definitely did not bring this on yourself. You know it is not something you would have wanted for yourself had you had the chance to choose, so there's no way it could be your fault. Victims never ask to be victimized or abused. It's just not done that's why they're called "victims". There's nothing a child can do to fight off a molester. They are simply not physically or emotionally equipped to do that. And that little voice that keeps whispering in your ear that it was your fault, you know is a liar. If you have to scream out at it until it's so and to leave you alone for good. This is not something you need in your life, for the rest of your life.

The very first thing you need to do right now, first chance, which will help you get more closure, is to expose this evil monster. And you shouldn't be the one afraid to do it because you're not the sick pervert here. It is time that your voice be heard! I would be very angry if I were you. The very next thing you should do is either go to the police or to a counselor but I would prefer the police but I know this is embarrassing for you though it was not your fault, but if you won't go to the police, go to a counselor right away and get Justice for yourself. You didn't deserve this.[/c][/b]

[b][center]PROMISE ME YOU WILL GO TELL, AS SOON AS POSSIBLE![/center][/b]
[b][c=666666]The sooner the better. Now is your time to be heard and voice your hurts. Your feelings need to be validated, so you know you are not alone in this. We'll all back you up and the counselor will back you up and we all believe you and we are rooting for you and praying for you. Be strong and courageous and do what is right for yourself, as no one deserves it more than you. I'm always here if you want to pm me and vent or just simply have a talk about anything. The more you talk about this, the more you will heal. It's time to break the silence and I know you are strong enough to do this. You don't have to let this hurt you anymore. It's time to fight back and be heard. ~ Love, Grace ❤ "Hugs"[/c][/b]