living in fear of a loved one departing and leaving you

If your mother is in pretty good health, why worry about it. I lived most of my adult life hundreds of miles from home. If she calls 4 times a day, talk to her and don't worry about what "Might" happen. My own mother passed at 90 years old. She was worried about dying from about 60 to about 80 years of age, she quit worrying about it and had a better quality of life. You needn't worry about the things you can't control, or about what might happen in the future. Plan for what will eventually come, retirement, a bigger apartment, a new car. Leave the "what ifs" out of the brain space.

I was talking about things I worry about to an older friend. He said "Worry is interest you pay on a debt that may never come due." I try to heed his advice.

I prepared for the loss of my mom when I was 14 yrs old..she had a car wreck and it was caused by a faulty break line...wrapped her car around a light poll, it broke her jaw bone, split her wide open, knocked out all her teeth, an i had to witness it in a dream 4 days before my birthday. Coming home from school on the school bus, ON MY 14TH BIRTHDAY, 4 days after this dream, i was not mentally prepared to see it ! But, thank God she survived and lived until i was 29. The sad part is we love them, but when we dont get loved in return, or bad vibes come out, we have to accept the facts of life. EVERYONE lives and EVERYONE dies..NOBODY STAUS in your life ever! Friends or family gets married, have kids, get old. Grand kids, etc. Cycle of life circles around. Myself. No kids, no family..just attend funerals and hear about weddings and banies and it gets annoying..to be almost 50 and feel alone, to fear the unknown when they still live is crazy. My advice...(Take it or leave it), get some recirculation, prepare for the worst senario, journal about it. Then have a strategy to accept death
Its inevitable yo avoid it. Once u accept it, you dont fear it
Hugs and prayers, hope it helps u. And oh, another thought, dont stop loving yourself, you are awesome 👏 😎

And ive answered this before.

If you want to find solutions, then be out guest and ask. Talk about it.
There are people here that know stuff and have experience they can share.


But honestly, if you're going to keep asking the same thing over and over ....yet not discuss it, try solutions before it becomes a crisis - then people are just going to give up responding.

One can only cry wolf so often before others become deaf to it🤷‍♀

Sorry for being blunt.
But sometimes blunt is needed to make things obvious and to push people into facing the true reality of things.

You need to start finding solutions NOW.
Its going to take time to find what works, what you can do yourself and what assistance you csn get and where from.

Do you want to do that now?...
...or when you are grieving and upset and in a panic?

As it is, it maybe too late already. As im sure im not the only one sick of seeing/answering this question

Its wasted effort.
And you insult people by reaching out and then ignoring the replies

I can understand this dreadful feeling. One can’t help but stay silent throughout life, thinking it’s inevitable.

The answer to ur problem is pretty obvious, but u won’t do anything. Just asking the same questions over and over. You need to force urself to become independent. Get out there and make friends…ask ur mother to call u once a week instead of four times a day. You need to do this now before mom dies.

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