living in fear of a loved one departing and leaving you

i know i've asked variants of this before, but it's something which really terrifies me....i fear deeply my elderly mother who i'm very close to and highly dependent on, i fear her departing this life and leaving me on my own in such a terrifying world?

i live alone, as i have done for 20 years in a little apartment , i have no support system apart from mainly my mum, and dad, but mainly my wonderful mum, i also live with difficult mental problems......i love my mother dearly and don't want my mum to leave me?....my mother lives far from me now, about 1 hours drive...and i see my mum now mainly at xmas time.......my mum phones me four times a day......which i'm so appreciative of and i always tell her how much i love her.....my mums doing good for her age.

can anyone help?

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OogieBoogie · F

And ive answered this before.

If you want to find solutions, then be out guest and ask. Talk about it.
There are people here that know stuff and have experience they can share.

But honestly, if you're going to keep asking the same thing over and over ....yet not discuss it, try solutions before it becomes a crisis - then people are just going to give up responding.

One can only cry wolf so often before others become deaf to it🤷‍♀

Sorry for being blunt.
But sometimes blunt is needed to make things obvious and to push people into facing the true reality of things.

You need to start finding solutions NOW.
Its going to take time to find what works, what you can do yourself and what assistance you csn get and where from.

Do you want to do that now?...
...or when you are grieving and upset and in a panic?

As it is, it maybe too late already. As im sure im not the only one sick of seeing/answering this question

Its wasted effort.
And you insult people by reaching out and then ignoring the replies