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Do your hobbies and personal interests 'repel' potential dates?

Or should they? Shouldn't someone accept another person for who and what they are, which includes their hobbies and personal interests?

Would you change yours, drop one or some, or take up different ones, in order to make yourself more 'attractive'?

It seems pretty hollow/shallow that a person's hobbies and personal interests would become a stand-alone point of contention unless said hobbies and personal interests were somehow dangerous, overly risky, etc.

You can't go into a relationship with a person and either shut out or ignore something about them like it doesn't exist. Likewise you can't go into a relationship with someone and then tell/demand/insist that a person must change something about themselves as a condition of the relationship continuing. Or can you?
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AngelUnforgiven · 51-55, F
Most of you who truly know me know that i love plants 🪴 i maybe have about 30 of them now. Roses, ivey's, ferns, even cacti. I am starting to develop allergies 🤧 and they were BAD this year i was itching sneezing eyes watering, scratching myself up. so i've decided that this will be my last year dealing with them. I'm moving at the end of the year anyway. But If my soulmate asked me to stop or get rid of them they'd be gone in a heartbeat. Any hobby that i have for that matter. If he were to ask me to, it would be for a good reason. He's more important to me than any hobby. On my end, I'm easy to please and i dont really care about other people's hobbies i would try to learn it and join him if he wanted or whatever he saw fit for me to do.
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Ferric67 · M
My main hobby is exercise and fitness
Unmotivated Unfit people get repelled by my interest
zonavar68 · 56-60, M
@Ferric67 I think with any personal interest if another person doesn't like it, that's their problem not yours. We're supposed to 'like' the 'whole person', not just selected aspects.
zonavar68 · 56-60, M
@zonavar68 ie. I'm not a fan of gym culture, but plenty are. I don't like cats, but plenty do. I don't like buying new cars, but plenty do. I don't like travel (esp int. travel) or have a passport, but plenty do. Some people love to drink socially every day at home, but I don't. Some people are religious (I consider that like a hobby) but I'm not. I don't hold that against a person, but that doesn't diminish a person's overall appeal. Sure any one of those things might make me not interested, but I wouldn't denegrate a person because of it. It's who they are.
AthrillatheHunt · 51-55, M
Not my personal interests or hobbies , only my personal hygiene hahah
zonavar68 · 56-60, M
@AthrillatheHunt That's a totally different matter though.
Alyosha · 31-35, M
Most women lack an interest in academic philosophy.

 
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