Do your hobbies and personal interests 'repel' potential dates?

Or should they? Shouldn't someone accept another person for who and what they are, which includes their hobbies and personal interests?

Would you change yours, drop one or some, or take up different ones, in order to make yourself more 'attractive'?

It seems pretty hollow/shallow that a person's hobbies and personal interests would become a stand-alone point of contention unless said hobbies and personal interests were somehow dangerous, overly risky, etc.

You can't go into a relationship with a person and either shut out or ignore something about them like it doesn't exist. Likewise you can't go into a relationship with someone and then tell/demand/insist that a person must change something about themselves as a condition of the relationship continuing. Or can you?

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Ferric67 · M

My main hobby is exercise and fitness
Unmotivated Unfit people get repelled by my interest

zonavar68 · 56-60, M

@Ferric67 I think with any personal interest if another person doesn't like it, that's their problem not yours. We're supposed to 'like' the 'whole person', not just selected aspects.

zonavar68 · 56-60, M

@zonavar68 ie. I'm not a fan of gym culture, but plenty are. I don't like cats, but plenty do. I don't like buying new cars, but plenty do. I don't like travel (esp int. travel) or have a passport, but plenty do. Some people love to drink socially every day at home, but I don't. Some people are religious (I consider that like a hobby) but I'm not. I don't hold that against a person, but that doesn't diminish a person's overall appeal. Sure any one of those things might make me not interested, but I wouldn't denegrate a person because of it. It's who they are.