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Something I don't like about myself is that inability to "let go"

It's tough and hard for me not imposible cause at some point I end up doing it ... but yeah.
Like part of me is quite loyal that even if things aren't going well, if i care i don't like ending with bad terms. Abruptly is like a long agonize for me. But sometimes things happen and people grow apart, I know that, but that's only with very few people that I become like that.

On the opposite with some other people I'm cold, and don't have a problem if I don't see them again ever, cut ties and that's it. Anyway I don't like conflict. But will always defend myself when needed.


And with others I care about them... But quietly. Or from a distance..
ravenwind43 · 51-55, F
I can relate to this. Once I feel for someone letting go of them takes far longer than I would like, whether it's friendships or romantic relationships.
ravenwind43 · 51-55, F
@SW-User I hope so. It's the best I have for the moment :)
Heartlander · 80-89, M
@ravenwind43 Yep. The flame continues to burn for a long time and goes out slowly. Until the day you die, there are still a few dozen dust covered embers that just need a kick to get them glowing again .
ravenwind43 · 51-55, F
@Heartlander Absolutely ....wise as always my friend. I have gained much insight and knowledge from you over the years:)
wildbill83 · 41-45, M
SW-User
@wildbill83 if i was like that my life would be better perhaps
Sepia · 36-40, F
Loyalty is for the dogs.. ✌️lol kidding! It works with the right company. The way to build your trust with a few must show good example, the rest will follow…

If you have a hard time to let go.. Try to experiment, take the risk. Pull the trigger and abandon what you love the most. It evens out heavy frustrations.
SW-User
@Sepia 😭 can't imaging abandoning what I love

Yeah, with the right people it's a blessing
Sepia · 36-40, F
Abandonment doesn’t mean you no longer love them.. It is still love but if you are suffocated..somehow you need a space that will heal you..@SW-User
astrosandorbits · 26-30, M
"But will always defend myself when needed."

To me this is the most important part. After being in love and going through such a difficult heartbreak, i find this to be so important. Stand up for yourself and your heart. You'll thank yourself later.
SW-User
@astrosandorbits thank you I'll try to remember always that
Classified · M
Loyalty is a good trait with the right people though, but it can hamper you from moving on.
SW-User
@Classified yeah that's what I think. Those words move on i dislike them haha 😂 like sounds forced and Idk
Classified · M
@SW-User It's like shutting a door that you don't want to shut
SW-User
@Classified yeah..
SW-User
I used to have a hard time letting go but I realize that I’m wasting my energy on people that don’t care for me.
SW-User
@SW-User wise words, it's an energy and time waster
SW-User
@SW-User yes and it’s sad because they should appreciate you more. They don’t realize how lucky they were. 🤷🏻‍♀️
SW-User
@SW-User people like different things... That's what I've learned... It's not about one nessesarily, and some just are fickle..
wildbill83 · 41-45, M
I have a hard time letting go if a relationship ends amicably, but if it ends badly/they betray me, they might as well be dead to me... 🤔
SW-User
@wildbill83 even if they betray me it's hard for me maybe harder 😭😭😭 but your approach sounds healthy
PatKirby · M
I understand. Sometimes letting go only brings it back to you. Let kids show you how it's done.

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SW-User
@PatKirby cute sweet little video
PatKirby · M
@SW-User

Sometimes we can complicate things, but if it's real and worthwhile you'll know it.
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SW-User
@SW-User that's nice but not letting go.. Is 😐
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Rokasu · 36-40, M
I hear tell I'm pretty good at helping people overcome that 😏
SW-User
@Rokasu I'm not curious about those ways haha
Rokasu · 36-40, M
@SW-User Eh I'll just break your heart and not care.
SW-User
Smilllleeeeeeee
SW-User
@SW-UserHahahaha because! It seems a fun place to be! Between hard work and enjoyment😂
SW-User
@SW-User it's the best and worst place hehe 🤭 makes life better, requires indulgement and then discipline again... Hehe maybe i need both to exist, cause if i indulged on everything i wanted i would be huge 😁😁 maybe someday I'll be hope not and don't think so hehe 🤭
SW-User
@SW-User ahaha I feel the same, it's hard to find a balance! I'm sure you won't be 👀
Starsandfire · 31-35, F
Totally relate to this! Ugh 😩
SW-User
@Starsandfire so tough 😐
Montanaman · M
I cant even imagine having to let go. 🤔🥺😔💔🤗❤️💞
uncalled4 · 56-60, M
If we're talking about relationships, I have always stayed too long. However, in doing that, I've made sure that I have tried everything to make it work. And, there's a sense of closure in that and I'm able to move on more easily.
SW-User
@uncalled4 I'm kinda the same and well we are like we are

 
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