Something I don't like about myself is that inability to "let go"

It's tough and hard for me not imposible cause at some point I end up doing it ... but yeah.
Like part of me is quite loyal that even if things aren't going well, if i care i don't like ending with bad terms. Abruptly is like a long agonize for me. But sometimes things happen and people grow apart, I know that, but that's only with very few people that I become like that.

On the opposite with some other people I'm cold, and don't have a problem if I don't see them again ever, cut ties and that's it. Anyway I don't like conflict. But will always defend myself when needed.

And with others I care about them... But quietly. Or from a distance..

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ravenwind43 · 51-55, F

I can relate to this. Once I feel for someone letting go of them takes far longer than I would like, whether it's friendships or romantic relationships.

SW-User

@ravenwind43 Same..... 😔

SW-User

@ravenwind43 so how do you manage and deal with it

ravenwind43 · 51-55, F

@SW-User Not easily but for me keeping to a routine and filling the space with something else helps. I don't say that it feels great or makes it all better but it keeps my mind from overthinking (sometimes :))

SW-User

@ravenwind43 sounds helpful

ravenwind43 · 51-55, F

@SW-User I hope so. It's the best I have for the moment :)

Heartlander · 80-89, M

@ravenwind43 Yep. The flame continues to burn for a long time and goes out slowly. Until the day you die, there are still a few dozen dust covered embers that just need a kick to get them glowing again .

ravenwind43 · 51-55, F

@Heartlander Absolutely ....wise as always my friend. I have gained much insight and knowledge from you over the years:)