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Have you ever been asked to prove who you are to someone online because someone else hurt them?

Would you take offense to it if you are asked?

Why/ why not?
quite a few times. and often because they don't think i'm the girl in my pictures.
and no i don't take offense to it, but wonder why they don't usually seem to feel the same need to prove who they are as well. always seems one sided, everyone must prove to THEM
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[@367459,DancingStarGoddess] Lol yeah. All this 'proving' is nonsense especially if we're not romantically involved.
[@44604,Aidolovemostofyourthoughts] exactly how i feel, i never understood the need to have so much personal info about someone who had no desire to meet, date or whatever else with them. seems strange. people wanna know what you do for a living, where you work, married, how many kids,and a picture etc all this just to have a casual chat about regular things. seems like being forced to have a closeness you didn't desire as they demanded to "know" you and your life in just minutes
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[@367459,DancingStarGoddess] LOL. It's also a pet peeve with me. :D
That was not you who hurt them.

I only give people my name after I trust them, some get offended and that there is their loss.

I am, quite content and happy to be friends with people online and not know how they look or sound or what their real name is. When they feel comfortable the will disclose that info themselves. I expect the same respect to be awarded to me.

It is not fair that someone is trying to manipulate you because someone else hurt them.
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[@406205,Babylon] Thank you! Exactly.
WalkingLoner · 22-25, M
Yes and I don't get offended but I do as I feel like.

Although I don't get it. If I'm not going to meet someone ever then why would it matter if I'm a 70 year old lady or a penguin from Antarctica. It's just the thoughts and feelings that matter.
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[@531790,illusionofself] Lol. The offending bit it not showing who we are. The offending bit to me is having to prove who I am in the light of another persons treachery.
To me, is sounds like I am being called treacherous too and asked to be proved otherwise. And this after years of interaction with me is offensive to me.

But like you say, what does it matter. In any case, I'd rather be the penguin in Antartica. :D
WalkingLoner · 22-25, M
[@44604,Aidolovemostofyourthoughts] lol I bet one would rather want to be the penguin lol.

Sad thing it is. Lack of trust after years of interaction is a sad thing. Even if you don't get offended, all those years full of interaction would seem like for nothing sigh.
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[@531790,illusionofself] Eh, the smartest of people seem to get lost when hit by emotions. Such is life.
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Yes. No, I did not take offense. The person was important enough to me to put pride aside and let them see that I'm genuine. I wouldn't do it for just anybody, but I guess one has to decide if the friendship is worth it. I felt it was.
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[@635091,Gethsemane] Okay
Yes. I hardly respond to messages as it is.

To go out of my way for someone who has trust issues online... that doesn't seem likely.

It's quite easy to claim that they've been through such.

If they don't believe that I am the person that I say I am... that's too darn bad. 😋

Chances are that I didn't look for their aquintance anyway.
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[@420709,Antiquity] Precisely.
stephanie19 · 22-25, F
I think if it's to build a relationship yes. I won't be getting that close to anybody. I did have photos up in the past.
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[@458273,stephanie19] Romantic relationships are different, of course.
stephanie19 · 22-25, F
Why do you need to prove to them who you are? To be friends? It's crazy what people expect from others on here just to have a friendly chat[@44604,Aidolovemostofyourthoughts]
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[@458273,stephanie19] Thank you! If asked in another way and not as a thing to prove, it might not be offensive but to be asked to prove to me seems offensive. Because I'm not asking for anything that needs that level of security for them.
CheshireCatalyst · 36-40, M
I think it's completely reasonable. The only people who ask for blind faith are gods and governments.
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[@337880,ChasingBrainBros] Now let me give you more detail and tell me if your answer remains the same:

If you're not asking anything of them and it's a general friendship, and they've known you for years. Some person comes hurt them and suddenly, you are also to be looked at with mistrust.
I'd find it offensive because whereas I get it that you want to not be duped, but that doesn't mean you go colouring everyone with the brush of distrust. Because one person hurt them.
Or, it could be asked in a different way.
CheshireCatalyst · 36-40, M
[@44604,Aidolovemostofyourthoughts] oh I literally just replied to another comment with this point of view.

You can't judge the majority based on the extreme minority, that's messed up. I can understand their concern over future interactions with new people, but I can't understand them tarring you with that brush.
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[@337880,ChasingBrainBros] Thank you. If it was a new interaction, I'd have understood it much more, even though not completely because it's just a regular online friendship.
5thApprentice · 26-30, M
Nah, I wouldn't mind if it were someone I kind of gave a damn about lol.

But if it's just some person in don't know well then I don't feel the need to prove anything.
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[@352419,5thApprentice] Exactly, lol. And certainly not because they were hurt by someone else.. it doesn't make us all liars.
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I'd ask them to first show me who they are
and most likely not believe that they are being truthful
and then I'll post a random internet photo
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[@610818,CollectBeautifulMoments] Lol.
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Depending how important it would bs to me...in the past. I dont prove anymore. I have been asked to prove love, didnt do it a d dont regret it. It was weird not offensive.
Yes. Short of giving vital statistics. I dont do that for ANYONE lol
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[@582038,FelixLegion] Lol.
ZenPearl · F
Yes. I don't find it offensive at all.
[@674752,NumberEleven] skype ☺
ZenPearl · F
[@582038,FelixLegion] yup, or whatsapp
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[@476434,Tres13] Why would it be offensive to you?
Tres13 · 51-55, M
[@44604,Aidolovemostofyourthoughts] take me as i am

 
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