whowasthatmaskedman · 70-79, M
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twistedrope · 26-30, M
Habits determine behaviour. Thinking a certain way reinforces that thought pattern. People do change through repition. It just takes a very long time. Repitition of a new belief will reinforce it but it takes a while and external positive reinforcement. thats why therapists exist.
CrazyMusicLover · 31-35
CrazyMusicLover · 31-35
@Daquered Maybe only through some extensive long-term therapy (or also brainwashing, unfortunately), sudden life-changing event or some illness that affects the brain. But I don't know, really. It's questions like this that make us wonder how much do we actually know ourselves and other people.
Daquered · New
@CrazyMusicLover The brainwashing point is unsettling to think about. If change can be forced, then maybe the people we think "never change" just haven't met the right pressure yet. Makes you wonder how much of what we call identity is really just circumstance.
The older I get, the less I care about shielding others from what they're old enough to suck it up and deal with. I'm doing the same in terms of everyone else and their life choices, so I feel they can and should return the favor.
I'm not bothering anyone therefore they can mind their business and keep their opinions to themselves or someone who isn't me.🤷🏾♀
I'm not bothering anyone therefore they can mind their business and keep their opinions to themselves or someone who isn't me.🤷🏾♀
Daquered · New
@DancingStarGoddess that makes sense. i think the tricky part is figuring out where that line is though. like i don't wanna manage everyone's feelings but i also don't wanna become someone who just doesn't care at all. i guess it's more about knowing when it's actually your problem versus when you're just used to making it yours.
James25 · 61-69, M
Some people do and some people don't. Some people adapt and learn how to hide who they are because it does not serve them and their interaction with other people. And some people change who they are for the better because they realize it does not serve them to interact with people in that way. And some people neither adapt nor change but continue to be someone who doesn't care regardless of whether it hurts themselves or hurts others. Or sometimes it's just too hard to change or they don't know how to change or they just don't want to change.
Likestoenjoylife · 51-55, M
Daquered · New
@Likestoenjoylife that gives me some hope honestly. i'm not there yet but maybe it's one of those things that just comes with time whether you're trying or not.
unregisteredhypercam4 · 22-25, M
Adrift · 61-69, F
Depends on the age.
A child usually says what comes to mind.
By adulthood we learn to have different faces for different situations.
By the elder years you learn you can't please everybody and what other people think you care less about.
The later elder years, your back to just saying what comes to mind.
A child usually says what comes to mind.
By adulthood we learn to have different faces for different situations.
By the elder years you learn you can't please everybody and what other people think you care less about.
The later elder years, your back to just saying what comes to mind.
Maturebate · 70-79, M
Daquered · New
@Maturebate that's kinda where i was leaning when i made the post. but then i started wondering if maybe the way you present to the world is what actually matters to everyone else. like if no one can see the difference does it even count as change
@Daquered it's good to be self aware
Gingerbreadspice · F