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What are your thoughts on the word, 'Worthy'?

I just read a cool quote, ' You dont get to trap me in the past. I am worthy of a future.' By Jodi Picoult
It was a quote on forgiveness of oneself or others. My question is, how do we know if we are Worthy? I often second guess that about myself. I know many do too.
For instance one of my main fears is dating, because I fear Im not worthy of love, if I cant do lots of things with a guy (socially..due to anxiety). How can we feel or believe we are Worthy??

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Mindfulness

Everyone is worthy of love.
How your worth is measured can only be done by those who love you.
Quite often our own evaluation of pur self worth is coloured by our mood or state of mind.
Everyone deserves a chance. 🙏❤

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Coralmist · 41-45, F

@MindfulnessTy for a thoughtful reply🐞 I gauge regular as what I see 90 % of couples do, go out here, go out there, they share fun outings together. But, thats true , that may not be the case in ALL couples. I recently read about a soldier with PTSD that found love. He said he couldn't go certain places, it triggered him, but the gf said, his kindness made up for any PTSD. That was so touching. It gave me hope. But most dont seem as accepting as her. 😟

Mindfulness

@Coralmist A lot of the images you see are people pretending to be happy, competing with each other on social media for the most perfect relationship, the best night out, the wonderfully close family. Put the camera away and many have the same self doubts, anxieties and problems. Don't get sucked into comparing yourself to others, just live your life and be as happy as you can. There's no need to prove anything to anyone but yourself.

Coralmist · 41-45, F

@Mindfulness Thanks, thats so true. And many guys here have even said they would enjoy someone who likes to be low key and not go out a lot. Ty again 🦋

Iwillwait · M

Listen/read what Lord says about you.

When you say you screwed up too much or just can't get it right, the Lord says you are holy and without fault. He enjoys you. His Son, Jesus Christ, made you holy and blameless. This is not by your own account or efforts. He alone makes you holy and blameless. What God says about you is true.

Ephesians 1:3 All praise to God, the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly realms because we are united with Christ.

Ephesians 1:4 Even before he made the world, God loved us and chose us in Christ to be holy and without fault in his eyes.

Ephesians 1:5 God decided in advance to adopt us into his own family by bringing us to himself through Jesus Christ. This is what he wanted to do and it gave him great pleasure.

Jinxie · 51-55, F

I think of worth as value. The mistake we make is connecting bad choices / experiences as our self worth.
We’re all worthy of love, happiness, friendship. We are innately good.
Choices - good or bad - do not have a direct correlation with our self worth.
I’d start by reminding yourself each day that you are worthy of love, happiness and friendship. Everyone is worthy. I may meet people I am interested in that don’t accept me as I am and that’s ok. My anxiety does not make me any less worthy than anyone else.

Coralmist · 41-45, F

@Jinxie Thank you Jinxie. I guess the root is I grew up in chaos, and feel Im not whole..like somehow I wouldn't be enough for someone. 😒

Jinxie · 51-55, F

@Coralmist You’re enough ❤️ You’ll definitely get there

Coralmist · 41-45, F

@Jinxie Thx Jinxie🌹

DeWayfarer · 61-69, M

Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.

I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path.

Where the fear has gone there will be nothing.

Only I will remain.

― Frank Herbert, Dune

While I don't agree with most of Frank Herbert's philosophy, this I find is absolutely true.

"You know as well as I do that fear only exists for one purpose: to be conquered.

Star Trek Voyager Janeway"

This is not a matter of being worthy. It's totally a matter of fear. You're afraid of fear itself.

Get rid of fear of being afraid, then worthiness doesn't matter.

Stop compartmentalizing your fears! It's just the fear of being afraid you need to get rid of.

We have nothing to fear but fear itself.

- Franklin D. Roosevelt

Coralmist · 41-45, F

@DeWayfarer Ty so much...I do fear Im not enough, but also I do fear getting panicked in front of friends, or a guy. So yes I fear the anxiety itself too.. HOW do you not fear it, and how others may look at me as less for having it?

DeWayfarer · 61-69, M

@Coralmist You do! You do what needs to be done!

I once mentioned on here that I was teased a lot as a kid for not being able to swim.

So I took it upon myself to do just that! Ignoring that fear!

At five years old, I went to the deep end stairs, climbed down them and pushed myself underwater. And swam the whole way underwater to the shallow end.

No one was around to see it! I just did it!

Ontheroad · M

I know and in the past have known a number of men that could care less about going out and doing all these social things. Please, don't use that as a gauge of your worthiness.

Being worthy is having value or being suitable (for whatever)... in the instance you used, I can guarantee you there are many men who would find you have value and would be very suitable to them.

Coralmist · 41-45, F

@Ontheroad Thank you , truly.🌺 I feel Id be letting a guy down or he will find another who CAN do lots of things🥺Then I dont feel worthy of relationships. But maybe there are guys out there who wont mind that I have soci a l anxiety as much. Ty my friend ❣️

Roundandroundwego · 61-69

Nobody is worthy unless we all are. Housing should be a right, like we're all worthy -. But the people in the houses didn't mind excluding others. So nobody is worthy. But we, the homeless, aren't like you inside the houses. We're not planning to hurt you.

CestManan · 46-50, F

@Roundandroundwego I think the issue there is that while some people who are down on their luck would do whatever they had to in order to maintain a residence, some people would basically ruin it for others. Like maybe be involved with drugs or domestic problems.

Or you let one person in and they bring their own house guests and the problems start not only in that household but it spills over to the neighbors.

I am not saying you would cause issues but plenty others would.

JoyfulSilence · 46-50, M

If feel worth when I accomplish something, make a difference, make somebody happy, or am loved or honored.

CestManan · 46-50, F

that word always makes me think of this annoying movie scene

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rrraksamam · 31-35, M

I am worthy

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