What are your thoughts on the word, 'Worthy'?

I just read a cool quote, ' You dont get to trap me in the past. I am worthy of a future.' By Jodi Picoult
It was a quote on forgiveness of oneself or others. My question is, how do we know if we are Worthy? I often second guess that about myself. I know many do too.
For instance one of my main fears is dating, because I fear Im not worthy of love, if I cant do lots of things with a guy (socially..due to anxiety). How can we feel or believe we are Worthy??

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Mindfulness

Everyone is worthy of love.
How your worth is measured can only be done by those who love you.
Quite often our own evaluation of pur self worth is coloured by our mood or state of mind.
Everyone deserves a chance. 🙏❤

Coralmist · 41-45, F

@Mindfulness Thank you..they deserve a chance EVEN if they cant offer much that most do during dating?

Mindfulness

@Coralmist It's not about what's on offer in the short term, and you don't need to be dating to be loved.

Coralmist · 41-45, F

@Mindfulness I know, Im just referring here to romantuc love, in my case. I dont believe Im worthy sometimes, because i cant offer a regular relationship of doing fun things, my anxiety creeps up in many social settings 😔 So i feel is giving just love or kindness enough?

Mindfulness

@Coralmist what quantifies as regular or normal?
Your anxiety is making you doubt your ability to give and receive love.
Trust me, there are plenty of anxious people in good, solid relationships, some with crippling anxiety and depression. It's about finding the right person to love you for what you are.
That's all any of us can hope for, no one is without flaws.

Coralmist · 41-45, F

@MindfulnessTy for a thoughtful reply🐞 I gauge regular as what I see 90 % of couples do, go out here, go out there, they share fun outings together. But, thats true , that may not be the case in ALL couples. I recently read about a soldier with PTSD that found love. He said he couldn't go certain places, it triggered him, but the gf said, his kindness made up for any PTSD. That was so touching. It gave me hope. But most dont seem as accepting as her. 😟

Mindfulness

@Coralmist A lot of the images you see are people pretending to be happy, competing with each other on social media for the most perfect relationship, the best night out, the wonderfully close family. Put the camera away and many have the same self doubts, anxieties and problems. Don't get sucked into comparing yourself to others, just live your life and be as happy as you can. There's no need to prove anything to anyone but yourself.

Coralmist · 41-45, F

@Mindfulness Thanks, thats so true. And many guys here have even said they would enjoy someone who likes to be low key and not go out a lot. Ty again 🦋