Mamapolo2016 · F
I don’t - or at least didn’t. I have never enjoyed crowds. I have never been much of a concert goer. I don’t shop on Black Friday.
But occasionally, especially if I’m in an unfamiliar or completely unknown situation, I can feel shy or awkward, especially if I feel like “the social norms might be different here.” This happens most often (but still quite rarely) if I find myself in a “fancy” home. The kind with $10,000 window treatments. Not because I am envious, but because I don’t know or much care about people who live “rich.” Because in my opinion, you can’t live rich and be a good person. So I don’t trust you, and because I know you don’t actually see me, I feel like a ghost. I am far more comfortable talking to complete strangers (something that has been the bane of my daughter’s existence. “Mom, please don’t TALK to people.”) it’s maybe a reverse kind of snobbery. If you will judge me on the price of my shoes, I have no time for you.
But occasionally, especially if I’m in an unfamiliar or completely unknown situation, I can feel shy or awkward, especially if I feel like “the social norms might be different here.” This happens most often (but still quite rarely) if I find myself in a “fancy” home. The kind with $10,000 window treatments. Not because I am envious, but because I don’t know or much care about people who live “rich.” Because in my opinion, you can’t live rich and be a good person. So I don’t trust you, and because I know you don’t actually see me, I feel like a ghost. I am far more comfortable talking to complete strangers (something that has been the bane of my daughter’s existence. “Mom, please don’t TALK to people.”) it’s maybe a reverse kind of snobbery. If you will judge me on the price of my shoes, I have no time for you.
sirweighsalot · 22-25, M
I have it pretty bad. I just try to avoid crowds and/or stick with someone I already know.
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sirweighsalot · 22-25, M
@swirlie It would just make me feel like a shitty person. Now that's all I'll ever be known to to somebody.
swirlie · F
@sirweighsalot
I wouldn't actually care if someone rejected me. Their rejection of me would be totally irrelevant to me.
The reason I would feel that way is because their rejection of me is actually their own rejection of themselves which they are now projecting onto me in their attempt to get rid of their self-hate, but they view me as if I was their own reflected image in a mirror they were standing in front of while they looked at themselves in the mirror.
I wouldn't actually care if someone rejected me. Their rejection of me would be totally irrelevant to me.
The reason I would feel that way is because their rejection of me is actually their own rejection of themselves which they are now projecting onto me in their attempt to get rid of their self-hate, but they view me as if I was their own reflected image in a mirror they were standing in front of while they looked at themselves in the mirror.
sirweighsalot · 22-25, M
@swirlie ahhh, makes sense
meJess · F
I have a very large German Shepherd who helps me meet people.
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Magenta · F
I don't, but, I can be socially awkard in certain situations.
It depends how intense it gets - it can be overwhelming. But often than not, I can deal with it by concentrating on my own thing.
CrazyMusicLover · 31-35
Yes. Some less obvious stimming, like wringing some object in my hands. If I feel like I have to, I leave.
DeWayfarer · 61-69, M
Only in massive crowds which I usually avoid.
Don't ask me to go to a rock concert or professional sports game. I'll refuse.
Don't ask me to go to a rock concert or professional sports game. I'll refuse.
katydidnt · 61-69, F
I deal with it through patience, during the few months until Social Security kicks in.
Kuronekko · 41-45, F
Mushrooms. Best cure I ever found.
Reflection2 · M
Yes, always around new people and seniors of my family but now, I hide it well
YoMomma ·
Not entirely
WaryWitchWandering · 36-40, F
Thrust · 56-60, M
@WaryWitchWandering
Always good to keep in mind. You ask someone to describe someone they just met, they'll tell you how they made them feel (however they say it) 10 x more than anything else
Always good to keep in mind. You ask someone to describe someone they just met, they'll tell you how they made them feel (however they say it) 10 x more than anything else
Tumbleweed · F
hunkalove · 61-69, M
I weep bitter tears.
No but I don't like being around a lot of people or forced interactions...it sucks the energy out of me
TheOneyouwerewarnedabout · 46-50, MVIP
just do it! - Nike
Find my anchor
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