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sirweighsalot · 22-25, M
I have it pretty bad. I just try to avoid crowds and/or stick with someone I already know.
swirlie · F
@sirweighsalot
I have a friend who's a lot like you describe yourself to be. If he and I walk into a donut shop to have a coffee together, he will actually wait outside if there happens to be one other person in the coffee shop standing at the cash register buying something.
Where do you think that kind of anxiety originates from?
I have a friend who's a lot like you describe yourself to be. If he and I walk into a donut shop to have a coffee together, he will actually wait outside if there happens to be one other person in the coffee shop standing at the cash register buying something.
Where do you think that kind of anxiety originates from?
sirweighsalot · 22-25, M
@swirlie Fear of rejection, mostly.
swirlie · F
@sirweighsalot
Okay, but then I have to say "so what if someone rejects me?".
If I rejected you, would that mean anything at all to you?
Okay, but then I have to say "so what if someone rejects me?".
If I rejected you, would that mean anything at all to you?
sirweighsalot · 22-25, M
@swirlie I know the correct answer, but yes it would.
swirlie · F
@sirweighsalot
Why would you care if I rejected you?
Why would you care if I rejected you?
sirweighsalot · 22-25, M
@swirlie It would just make me feel like a shitty person. Now that's all I'll ever be known to to somebody.
swirlie · F
@sirweighsalot
I wouldn't actually care if someone rejected me. Their rejection of me would be totally irrelevant to me.
The reason I would feel that way is because their rejection of me is actually their own rejection of themselves which they are now projecting onto me in their attempt to get rid of their self-hate, but they view me as if I was their own reflected image in a mirror they were standing in front of while they looked at themselves in the mirror.
I wouldn't actually care if someone rejected me. Their rejection of me would be totally irrelevant to me.
The reason I would feel that way is because their rejection of me is actually their own rejection of themselves which they are now projecting onto me in their attempt to get rid of their self-hate, but they view me as if I was their own reflected image in a mirror they were standing in front of while they looked at themselves in the mirror.
sirweighsalot · 22-25, M
@swirlie ahhh, makes sense