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Lonely and anxious

I will manage. It’s a little harder lately as things are changing quite a bit in my life.
The divorce, losing a bit of support, trying to make new friends, packing for my move, tackling clutter, training for new job, And sending my youngest to college this weekend. I will be ok.

I need to use my better coping skills instead of silly distractions like meeting w people And making friends. But I just wished I had something to look forward to so I arranged a birthday dinner for myself with new people. However it’s causing some anxiety. Distracting me from my more serious issues.

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Carissimi · 70-79, F

That happened to me in my 60s too. It was devastating to me, but then I not only gave up my marriage, home, most belongings, income, pets, etc; I also moved almost 2000 miles to a new state, where I knew only one person. It took a long time to recover. I think if you keep some familiarity around you, like staying in the same town or home, at least there is some continuity in your life, so you don’t feel adrift. If you still keep the same friends, know people and places in your area, I’m sure that makes a difference. When everything is new, it’s very hard.

Good luck! 🤗

Stuffy · 61-69, F

@Carissimi wow I’m sorry it must have been hard, why did you move? I’m grateful I will have some continuity. On the other hand handling a from scratch situation personally made you stronger after a while, yes?

Carissimi · 70-79, F

No. I was already beaten down from the previous 25-years. Going through all this just added to it. I’m not as broken as I was, but I’m only half the woman I used to be. Aging has a lot to do with it too, and all that entails. It’s not a good age to start over from scratch, that’s why it’s good you have familiarity and continuity. @Stuffy

Stuffy · 61-69, F

@Carissimi thank you And take care

windinhishair · 61-69, M

Best of luck to you in your new life. Take things a day at a time. Find something every day to do for yourself, whether it be an ice cream cone or just talking to an old friend to see what they are up to. You can do this. You WILL do this. And it may take some time, but you will be OK.

SW-User

That's a lot to handle. I've been thru some of the above myself, and as they say it never rains but it pours... It all seems to descend on us at once.

Stuffy · 61-69, F

@SW-User it is a lot

robertsnj · 56-60, M

hugs / that is a lot of transition in a short time. Would make anyone anxious.

Stuffy · 61-69, F

@robertsnj thanks for hugs Robert

Unlearn · 41-45, M

Divorced at your age!? 😟

I thought people got married so they would have a support system at old age...

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Unlearn · 41-45, M

@Stuffy bless em 🙂

Stuffy · 61-69, F

@SW-User I’m sorry. I’m so grateful for m my sons. Do you have any family?

SW-User

@Stuffy I have an elderly aunt and uncle who live in another state. They've been supportive. The uncle, plus 2 of his friends, have done a LOT to help me with moving things out of my deceased parents' house over the past 2 years. I'm grateful to have them.

Virgo79 · 61-69, M

Busy lady!😕

Stuffy · 61-69, F

@Virgo79 yet here I am online lol

Virgo79 · 61-69, M

@Stuffy hey, gotta have fun🤷‍♂️

samueltyler2 · 80-89, M

So you are an empty nester? It takes getting used to.

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samueltyler2 · 80-89, M

@Stuffy you never can tell. The evolutionary/genetic desire to reproduce is very powerful, than goodness, it maintained the species this long

Stuffy · 61-69, F

@samueltyler2 I’m not that thankful for it

samueltyler2 · 80-89, M

@Stuffy why is that?

Stuffy · 61-69, F

But 😱 😬 😥

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