Lonely and anxious

I will manage. It’s a little harder lately as things are changing quite a bit in my life.
The divorce, losing a bit of support, trying to make new friends, packing for my move, tackling clutter, training for new job, And sending my youngest to college this weekend. I will be ok.

I need to use my better coping skills instead of silly distractions like meeting w people And making friends. But I just wished I had something to look forward to so I arranged a birthday dinner for myself with new people. However it’s causing some anxiety. Distracting me from my more serious issues.

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Carissimi · F

That happened to me in my 60s too. It was devastating to me, but then I not only gave up my marriage, home, most belongings, income, pets, etc; I also moved almost 2000 miles to a new state, where I knew only one person. It took a long time to recover. I think if you keep some familiarity around you, like staying in the same town or home, at least there is some continuity in your life, so you don’t feel adrift. If you still keep the same friends, know people and places in your area, I’m sure that makes a difference. When everything is new, it’s very hard.

Good luck! 🤗

Stuffy · 61-69, F

@Carissimi wow I’m sorry it must have been hard, why did you move? I’m grateful I will have some continuity. On the other hand handling a from scratch situation personally made you stronger after a while, yes?

Carissimi · F

No. I was already beaten down from the previous 25-years. Going through all this just added to it. I’m not as broken as I was, but I’m only half the woman I used to be. Aging has a lot to do with it too, and all that entails. It’s not a good age to start over from scratch, that’s why it’s good you have familiarity and continuity. @Stuffy

Stuffy · 61-69, F

@Carissimi thank you And take care