Anxiety allover the place

It is nice to be prepared for the the worse, in case something happens.. but I hate how I always assume something bad is going to happen, something will go wrong, with and without a reason. I am not sure why I am always so pessimistic.. thinking, it is not possible that everything will go well .. I literally look for what is going to go wrong, and if I cannot find something, I make up something...

This is LITERALLY my brain, me; what could possibly go wrong, just casually wondering.. my brain: Excellent question!

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EarthlingWise

Degbeme is right. There are many reasons to worry, which makes a good reason to have fun. Make sure you squeeze a bit of fun into your schedule.
Also, whenever we build something new, it's scary, but it's by daring to try new things that we make progress.

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EarthlingWise

@BittersweetPotato because you're pretty much on your own in this adventure.

EarthlingWise

@EarthlingWise But you do have people here that really care about you. I guess you have to love the liberty you have though, being surrounded is both a bonus and an onus!

BittersweetPotato · 31-35, F

@EarthlingWise I appreciate having you and everyone else, it gives me a lot of emotional support and motivation... no one in my real life ever understood how genuine an online connection can be.. The people around me, mainly family have never supported me actually.. honestly, they have always been a hurdle or an obstacle in any step I took.. Yet it is still scary to be somewhere else knowing that I am REALLY on my own, but it is ALSO liberating to know I am in COMPLETE control and to be able to live freely as i see fit..

LegendofPeza · 56-60, M

I don't know if you've seen this quote in the 'about me' field in my profile but I think it's worth repeating here in response to your question. They are the words of Fyodor Dostoevsky , someone who knew a thing or two about the human condition.

"Don’t be overwise; fling yourself straight into life, without deliberation; don’t be afraid - the flood will bear you to the bank and set you safe on your feet again."

Remember Gaga , fear is your enemy.

BittersweetPotato · 31-35, F

@LegendofPeza I like the writing of Dostoevsky, can't claim I read for him much, but I liked the excerpts I came across, and nope, I did not see this quote in your profile ... I love it.. if I am ever able to live as such, I think I may even be able to reach places I never knew existed. I wish I have such courage, I've always wished I could just be spontaneous, try and fail... I have to say being to cautious or even too afraid is one of my greatest weaknesses.

LegendofPeza · 56-60, M

@BittersweetPotato Well my honest expectation is that once you have experienced what a new world has to offer you , and you are freed from the baggage of the past , you will wonder only why you never did it earlier.

BittersweetPotato · 31-35, F

@LegendofPeza I have a similar feeling inside.. but I always put myself down whenever I think anything positive lol.. but I feel that regardless of all the challenges, life will be more beautiful .. starting from little things like beautiful nature which I've never experienced in my life, and ending with bigger things like feeling more secure and comfortable with my beliefs and being surrounded by like minded people .. I think having to hide and pretend for long has taken a big toll on my mental health... Being able to get rid of past baggage isn't an easy task though, as a matter of fact, I feel some things will ALWAYS remain at the back of my head, because they have been engraved in my brain since childhood.

Degbeme · 70-79, M

You aren`t alone with this thinking. We all do it, some just don`t admit it. All I can say is try to think positive. 🤗

BittersweetPotato · 31-35, F

@Degbeme But II know with me it is very exaggerated :(

Degbeme · 70-79, M

@BittersweetPotato

Abstraction · 61-69, M

Psychologically the fear of disappointment has more influence on our lives than disappointment itself. Or bad things. It's a subconscious form of protection from... the feeling of disappointment or things going wrong. The way to overcome it is to alter the way you process disappointment or other feelings. Learning to avoid catastrophising it ("my whole life..."), personalising it ("I'm useless"). Easily said, I know. But worth the journey.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/blog/living-forward/201709/why-the-fear-disappointment-is-detrimental-your-life

Coralmist · 41-45, F

I think many do this, so you are not alone. I remember that my therapist told me, "You dont always need to be *prepared*. If something does happen, you will know or figure a way to alter it, and deal in that moment. " I liked that because I too overthink.

BittersweetPotato · 31-35, F

@Coralmist thanks for sharing... i always feel i need to be prepared..

CestManan · 46-50, F

I heard once that like 95% of the things that we worry about never actually happen. I think a lot of us worry because we've had past experiences where things hit the fan so now when things seem to be going smoothly are like, oh boy what is going to go wrong?

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