Sad
Only logged in members can reply and interact with the post.
Join SimilarWorlds for FREE »

Do you procrastinate often?

I read people who suffer from trauma often do.
Like last night, I needed to read for an hour a very overdue self help library book. But it's tedious CONSTANTLY trying to better myself. But I can't not do it, because trauma is the reason I feel I don't deserve much. And my life is suffering for it. I get crippling anxiety at jobs, feeling I didn't do enough, so it's really hard to work.
Instead of reading, I came on SW for that hour. Then I feel incompetent and MORE stuck. Ughh.
Do you get frustrated if you procrastinate?
Top | New | Old
MellyMel22 · F
Yep, I’m great at it. Then I panic last minute and get it all done faster than most prob would 🤣
GoFish · 41-45, F
Docdon23 · M
I am reading a great book now that could help you, Healing Your Lost Inner Child. We all carry childhood trauma and the ways we responded as children, some of which remain in our adult selves until we address the root causes. I would love to share more. I used to feel just as you do...but now see hope. There are ways to heal!!
HikingMan · 56-60, M
PTSD , ADHD, and depression can all have the effect of causing procrastination. It’s also something that isn’t always “cured” as the underlying issues are treated or dealt with.
Boring, tedious, or simple things that are relatively easy enough to get done anytime are the things I procrastinate the most with.

Oddly enough, my mind tends to forgive me readily enough for not doing something exactly when I should have.

My procrastination is a product of my ADHD, I think. Though I do have certain traumas that have caused me real PTSD issues so I can never really be sure.

Like you I do a lot of self help reading and some CBT and shadow work as well.

However, the procrastination process still lingers.

I’ve found that making plans to do a thing doesn’t often help. Still, through my self-helping I have been able to keep the anxiety over such things low and manageable and I am becoming kinder to myself as I age.

I wish you the best with all of it, and if it helps…, many libraries offer automatic renewals of a book.
My local library grants the books for 3 weeks and if it isn’t returned on time they just renew the loan for another 3 weeks.

Be well,
Rob
Baybreeze · 41-45, F
@HikingMan That's good you became kinder to yourself, because it truly doesn't help in any way to degrade ourselves. I have taken this book out twice lol..so it's very overdue. Im going to finish it tomorrow for SURE!!
HikingMan · 56-60, M
@Baybreeze I hope that you do.

But if you don’t, I’d like to share with you a thing we used to say about mountains when I was a little more active with my climbing. I think it works well for books too.

“It will be there when you’re ready to (climb it) finish it. It’s not going anywhere.”

The self grace and kindness is an entirely new thing for me and I still struggle with it.
Therapy has helped me to understand more of what I’ve read and helps me with my own accountability in relation to my healing and growth.

We’re all works in progress that are never finished until we’re finished.

Sending you my very best wishes on the tapestry you’re creating.
Baybreeze · 41-45, F
@HikingMan Thanks Rob I really appreciate that🌷. It's kind of just hitting me after a decade of self help reading, that actually BEING compassionate to yourself does help the mind . It just seemed a pipe dream to me to EVER like myself or give myself grace, because my mind track believe I was selfish if I did. If I were a friend, I'd never treat them as I do myself. So our twisted human subconscious is really off, thinking goodness isn't warranted. Because I AM more open with others when I myself feel ok or good. Thank you.
Dainbramadge · 56-60, M
I'll get back to you. :-)
Entwistle · 56-60, M
When i can be bothered to yes.
Strongtea · 22-25, M
I do it so much, then I feel so terribly awful.
WillaKissing · 61-69, M
No I do nt procrastinate at all.
MrSmartyPants · 46-50, M
I procrastinate everyday!! Sorry for what you're going through, in time it may lessen 🫂
Musicman · 61-69, M
Yes I do. 😥
Bignakedguy · 31-35, M
I have a complicated history with procrastination.

I do notice that I only procrastinate on things I know I can nail on the head

For me, procrastination comes in the form a voice of phony friendliness. That voice that says “Hey man, you can do that tomorrow! Go home and watch YouTube”

The laziness is a bandaid. Until I snap out of it and tell that voice “No! I’m not gonna stay home eating cheese puffs and watch movies”

To me, procrastination is a nemesis that delays any progress or even success.
RebelRaven · 51-55, F
OMG yes, badly. ☹
Sometimes for years.
However, more recently, I'm supposed to be taking my own blood pressure reading for some months now but I doubt I'll ever get around to doing it until the doctor's office calls asking me to come in for my semi-annual app't (which I'll doubtless try to wriggle out of... )
Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F
I will answer tomorrow
Gibbon · 70-79, M
Procrastination is a way of life for me without any trauma. There are things I prepare for ahead of time but others meh it can wait. Do I feel panic at the last minute? Nope. During my working years that last minute rush often became time of enlightenment
Sidewinder · 36-40, M
I'll answer that later.
Some1somewhere · 41-45, M
I had been meaning to post a comment here for a wee while. Welp I got there in the end..
JoyfulSilence · 51-55, M
I procrastinated on seeking medical help and almost died as a result.

Now, I regularly see one doctor and four specialists. I take five medications. But it seems like overkill.

I sort of miss the old days when I never saw a doctor and took no pills.

Of course, I had hypertension, high cholesterol, was overweight, and developing diabetes. At least now some of this is under control. And just knowing about it was good.

Yet I wish the education system and society would have taught me more about the risks of too much sugar. Had I known I would get neuropathy and truly knew while young what it is like now, I would have avoided sugar. Of course just being fat was bad. I knew it but ate too much. I still am fat. I need to work on that.

More procrastination. I need to eat less, walk more, stop scratching sunburn, and drink more water. I always say eventually. Habits are hard to stop.
Baybreeze · 41-45, F
@Mindful I'd be wary because just today, so weird! Saw on news a GLO1 med causes permanent eye vision loss😯🙁
Mindful · 56-60, F
@Baybreeze sorry I meant ugh GLP 1
JoyfulSilence · 51-55, M
@Baybreeze

I use sucralose (Spleda) in my coffee, and only get sugar free drinks. Yet sugar free sweet tea is way too sweet. So I get unsweetened tea and grab packets of Splenda to add myself!

I quit eating cookies, pie, cake, candy, chocolate bars, ice cream, etc , and drinking orange juice and milkshakes. I still eat a lot of fatty foods since there is no sugar, but being fat is not good for diabetes, either.

I take semaglutide (Ozempic), which mimics GLP-1 (a natural hormone), for my diabetes.

My A1C has come down to prediabetic range. The last blood test was below 100. I stopped pricking my finger every day to check, though. This was a periodic blood draw to to test all sorts of things. The doctor said I need to drink more water. It is hard, since too much water makes me spit up! I think the semaglutide bloats my stomach since it is designed to slow down stomach emptying. It makes people feel full so they eat less.

I take lisinopril to relax my blood vessels, and hydrochlorothiazide to help flush out salt and water through my urine. I think they are working since my pressure is not so high. But I stopped checking it daily and only do so when the doctor checks.

So things are getting better, except for my toes. I think they are numb for life. I also feel weak in my left foot. I always have to lift my weight on my right foot then the left foot follows. About all it can do is stand. But only with my right foot on the ground, too. If I try to balance on my left foot I feel like I am going to crumple.

I just relapsed, and ate a bag of peanut M&M's. I had three meetings and some work in between, so had to skip lunch. I am still hungry. These M&M's are going to give me heartburn, I just know it. I should drink more water, right? 😁
It's a real issue for me. Especially if it's a phone call. I hate it too.
Sapio · 51-55, M
I do from time to time. I'm either hyperfocused or I'm meh, I'll do that later.

 
Post Comment