I can relate. And it's hard to like yourself when no one else likes you

I can feel you on that.

Life is way too short to linger on the .... negativity of people.

It's hard not to let it get to you. I'm with you on that.

But, think. Who are they to you, no one. What do they do for you, nada. Why should their opinions affect your life so much, it shouldn't.

Confidence is not they will like me, Confidence is I'm ok if they don't.

Love this quote. Not a bad mantra also.

Chin up. All the best.

🙏

Oh I just think that's a natural human emotion to tell you the truth. We kind of go back and forth on that. I mean who wouldn't want someone to like us? It's not a crime. We just don't want to get obsessed with it, to where we get all upset about it if someone doesn't. We are social beings after all. Don't feel bad okay? You'll get better with that as you get older. I think that's when it really hits a person that it is okay if someone doesn't like us. It's really nothing personal I don't think. Everyone has their preferences and a right to them. Not everyone is going to like us all the time. And that's really okay.

I'm the same way, so afraid of offending someone. I really dislike conflict too. I think I've gotten a little better with aga, and therapy, but this worrying will probably always be there.

It's difficult not to think that way. I always hope people will like me but have also learned that some do not and focus on the ones that do.

Well, professionally speaking, your obsession with this is an underlying (root cause) condition of not liking yourself. The "trick" is to transfer your attention on whether or not people like you to a laser focus on why you don't like yourself. Now, your brain (subconscious) will try to prevent you from doing this for obvious reasons. YOU have to take charge and focus on the reality of the situation. Keep in mind, the objective is not to wallow in not liking yourself. Instead, it is to...

1. Acknowledge your situation.
2. Understand the basis for your situation.
3. Resolve the reasons for your situation.

In other words, you want to come out of this with liking yourself. The test of success will be you are no longer interested in whether people like you or not. Oh, you will be aware that some people don't. And, you might decide to make some alterations to accommodate them... to be social. But, it won't really matter to you because you will know (in your heart) YOU like yourself. And that will matter more.

This is hard work and it won't happen on time schedule. If you do it right... if you commit to the program... it will be an emotional rollercoaster and you will realize why your subconscious tried so hard to keep you off this track. Long term though, it will free you from being enslaved to this obsession and you will feel it.

All the best.

I can feel that.
I too get it sometimes. Through work I'm over it but sometimes I go back. What works sometimes is
-confront my mind telling it, you know what people like me and you are simply ignorant
-going the opposite direction and celebrating, saying to myself something like yay no one likes me how much fun
-invoking the voice of a grandparent saying something sweet
-going for the big picture and imagining the people who have indeed love me through the course of my life...
I hope it may be of help...

I have learned long ago that no matter how good you are as a person not everyone is going to like you. So i focused more on what i likecabdv what i think of myself rather than seek approval of others. It has served me well.

[@browneyesarebest] 🤔do not worry about it be you and not a people pleaser.you will make friends just being you i am sure . it is the way it goes some like you thai is great and some will not so just accept that and concentrate on those who have friendly tendencies

I would rather people like me, but I don't fall apart if someone doesn't. I try too hard to avoid conflict sometimes.

I don’t really care if they like me or not and I have all the friends I want.

Why do you need someone’s praising for your own being?