How can you stop People pleasing?

@Coralmist Thank you for the Best Comment... 🙂🙂🙂

@HootyTheNightOwl w elcome..thank you too🦋

@DragonFruit So maybe a happy medium... like instead of me thinking I ALWAYS need to smile at someone, or make them happy to accept me, maybe only Occasionally I will. And I don't think I'd ever be able to just stop pleasing others, cold turkey, and become selfish. But maybe, I can ease up on it, as it burns me out emotionally. Thank you Dragon.

@Coralmist Yes, a happy medium....don't become uncaring about others, but make sure to take some time for yourself as well.

@Jenny1234 I truly appreciate you sharing that woth me🌺 Ty so much Jenny. I will try to reread these again tomorrow and subsequent days too. Ty again 🪻

@Coralmist anytime coralmist. Happy to share.

I know this is going to sound insane, but I really and truly found myself and grounded myself and truly loved myself once I started doing Reiki. Just true sense of self-worth. would really recommend that you get if you can find someone in your area who does it

@Jenny1234 I will definitely look into it!!

@Coralmist Oh...you're welcome, but YOU are doing all of the work.

I'm a spectator cheering on you, the runner of the marathon--and you are STILL GOING!

Keep it up! 👏👏👏👏😊😊😊🎉🎆🎇

@SomeMichGuy Ty truly. Some days I feel so hopefless. b/c many parts of my life are disarray, and I feel like I don't have it together. My PTSD is pretty moderate, so it stifles my life as well. But i do try to be grateful for the small things, regardless of this nightmare that occurred. Thank y ou Mich✨

@Coralmist I think any positive elements are great things to focus on and celebrate, including small things!

See?! You adapt and move on.

If you observe most dominant ppl. They usually have a friend or 2 in tow…
That’s their confidence.
You should approach every situation as if every person in the vacinity is just as anxious scared shy nervous.. as you 😇

@Coralmist

I know, and that's a terrible thing. I know a few people who grew up with that and it sticks. It seems they are very timid or aggressive.

Some seemed able to shut it off and become confident in spite of this

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@easterniowegin I think I long for people to see me as worthy (b/c i never ever was growing up into adulthood)... so I feel if I don't 'do' for them, or please them, they will see me as worthless, or 'bad',

@swirlie I hearted it, which means I did understand. :) I do slightly disagree that one is incapable of giving to others or helping them, if they don't put themselves first. I never have put myself first, but constantly gave love, kindness, gifts, etc. to people all my life. However, It pays a DEAR price... b/c now I am very very burned OUT .. so now, I truly feel I can't give much anymore. (Especially emotionally). I really need to get it through my head that I matter, that is the key. I was taught every day of my life, that I didn't matter and was told, I had no 'right' to a voice, or to anything. It truly warped my mind over time, and yielded near ZERO esteem. My own parent once threatened to kill me, so this is the type of toxic identification I have, that I should barely even exist. So, you become a slave to hoping others don't immediately sense or somethow ALSO think you are worthless. (I'm finally seeing, it was their horrible Narcissism, which is incurable, that is to blame , Not that I AM worthless. )

@Coralmist
Okay, I never knew that a push of the heart button means that someone understood what I wrote. Thanks for bringing clarity to my otherwise lack of understanding of what all the buttons are for on this website. Why am I always the last one to know the meaning of these little things I wonder?