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Does anyone else have a hard time believing someone else when they find you attractive?

I'm talking to a few guys online currently because I'm attempting once again to find love. Yeah I know I'm a stupid idiot for even trying and it probably won't end well as usual but I'm trying. Anyways one guy said I was gorgeous and I about wrote him back telling him that's not true and that he's joking right. I just have NEVER believed anyone who said I was because i myself never feel it. I just have never been able to see it no matter how much I do to myself. I was picked on a lot growing up for my looks and to this day it has affected me.
NerdySoph · 26-30, F
I was picked on a lot growing up for my mind being weird, but it did affect my whole self worth quite badly. That, and other experiences at home.

I understand that feeling, but all we can do is push forward and try to better how we see ourselves.

Please be safe with online, not every word that comes out of people are true, or without ulterior motives. Good luck to you may you find exactly what you're looking for and have happiness :)
Thevy29 · 41-45, M
An 80 year old woman with dementia offered me $10 to go to bed with her. She even took her teeth out and did what I suppose she thought was a sexy look... It upset my bosses when I refused to work in that ward again.
Beguiling · 22-25, F
I have hard time believing it.

It's not necessarily low self-esteem for me it's honestly just fact I'm not as attractive as others. Like I take selfies, I think I can be cute or even sexy (heck I can turn myself on with right outfit lol)

But when it comes to being attractive to others, definitely don't think so. I hate when I say that (cuz they ask why I don't date) & people think I want them to convince me I'm a catch or that I want them to compliment me.
I definitely do not, it's as simple as that; not that attractive to men in general. I'm self aware enough to know where I'm at on the attractive scale just based on my interactions with others over the years.

I will say this though, I'm sure I'm attractive to someone to point they want to date me but so far hasn't happened.
GuyWithOpinions · 31-35, M
That just means you have low self esteem and have to work on that. If other people find you attractive, you should agree with them at some point. Your life will change when your self worth goes up.
melissa001 · 51-55, F
I feel the same. I've learned to say thank you. But I don't believe a word they say.
I have very low self esteem.
Wallflow3r · 26-30, F
You are beautiful but that doesn't mean you are attractive. I know it's easier said then done but try to not bring yourself down and appreciate the compliments you are given. Don't focus on what you think your negative traits/features are but it embrace the positive ones and people will see the best in you, the way you want to be seen, and you will more likely be successful in finding love. 💕
Dethmoore · 31-35, M
I understand. The girls I chased after, they didn’t like me back. Then there were some girls that were crazy for me, and I didn’t understand why.

I guess it’s preferences or whatever. Best to not overthink it and shoot your shot. Go with the flow. Don’t miss your opportunity. You got one shot.
Sandydt74 · 46-50, F
GOD made us all different. Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. I also have low self esteem and it has put a toll on my life. It was nice for the man to give u that compliment. If u say that u never receive those kind words from anyone then I would reply back with a Thank you and feel good about it.
Umile · 41-45, F
Embrace it. Receive their good energy. But, don't let it get to your head.

I mean, I'd rather be happy or smart rather than interesting looking.
DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F
That's the biggest problem I have in my relationships. My bf actually gets angry because I can't understand why he's with me.
Other people's perspectives are subjective whether they're positive or negative..best to accept and love yourself
SW-User
Have you tried just believing it? It’s very off putting when people act that way
People will tell you that you are hot just to try to get you in bed. I make them wait. 😂
JohnnyNoir · 56-60, M
Yes, I have a mirror and I know they're just being nice
Iwillwait · M
I don't ever have that happen.
pride49 · 31-35, M
Yeah I feel that way too...at times
fortheloveofmoney · 31-35, M
Yes I think I am ugly
Ducky · 31-35, F
Yep. All the time.
i am sorry you were picked on for ur looks. but if you can’t see anything about urself that’s beautiful, how do you find that in someone else? we can only love others as deeply as we love ourselves..
MonaReeves86 · 36-40, F
Are you a girl
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SW-User
@Lostpoet its probably someone like you that says it to everyone so it actually means nothing

 
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