My Wife, My Abuser

@Richard65 As @Sharon says, you're attempting to make it appear that female on male domestic abuse is insignificant.

@NortiusMaximus I was considering deleting his comments but, on second thoughts, I'll leave them as evidence of his misandry.

@Philth Probably quite a lot. A lot of men are also homeless as a result of domestic abuse. They should be given priority for social housing but, as the police tend to refuse to accept their complaints, they can't get a crime number. Without that, they're accused of intentionally making themselves homeless go are not entitled to assistance.
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@HootyTheNightOwl Women additionally benefit from the "female sentencing discount" - an automatic reduction just for being female.

@HootyTheNightOwl That's exactly right. My sis and her hub are both police officers.

The policy is when called to a domestic incident always arrest the male. Regardless of who made the initial the call and regardless of what the officers establish by speaking to the 2 people or what the 2 people say. If the woman claims she's been assaulted but has no injuries believe the woman. If the man claims he's been assaulted but has no injuries don't believe him. If the man has injuries and the woman doesn't assume they were in self-defence and arrest the man.

To do anything other than arrest the male the officers would need to call the duty inspector for permission, giving their reasons. Most sensible officers wouldn't even bother making the call because if they don't arrest the male and something bad happens to the female afterwards that would lead to an inquiry which would most likely mean loss of job. Even if they made the call and the inspector gave permission to not arrest the male at the subsequent inquiry the inspector would say I relied on my officer at the scene. Clearly he got it wrong - sack him.

Of course some of the more intelligent males will lawyer up and sue the police afterwards for wrongful arrest. The police don't mind that, they'll happily pay compensation with no come back on the officer.

This is nothing to do with the police claim of protecting the public - it's all about the police avoiding blame and protecting themselves. And of course the officers following the rules and not wanting to lose their job.

@JonUK31 I've seen that in practice when I've attended incidents where the male victim has been seriously injured. Even when we've had to blue light a male victim to A&E the police still seemed to have the attitude that he was the offender.

@HootyTheNightOwl on the face of it you make a good point. No, I'm not bothered that some random person I've not met has said something nasty. That screenshot though is excellent illustration of the sort of encounters I experience on a regular basis - some of which result in various allegations. That shit gets tiring, mud sticks, it cost me my last job and makes like difficult within the community I live. Do you see?

@Philth I understand more than you think. I've been there, too... I have lost jobs because I was too truthful - and I refused to be bullied.

I'm on the cusp of moving to a new place in a city where I'll have more opportunities than I've had here in town for most of my life. I'm looking forward to a future where I can be my own boss and I get to be who I am instead of being what someone else wants me to be.

I want a less formal work life for myself and others who may work with me and an environment where honesty is valued but without bullying that I've endured. Autistic people don't deserve to be bullied just because we are different.

@DeWayfarer There are individual activists, but it’s a catch-22 situation. As long as there’s a stigma attached, like there is among male victims who are made to feel bad by law enforcement, or LGBT couples, only a fraction of those affected by domestic abuse will come forward. That in turn allows others to claim its "not as big a deal". 🥺

@bijouxbroussard Male victims are often treated as the abusers by the authorities. :(

@Torsten There are a few misandrists here who deny all the evidence that women can be abusers and men victims of domestic abuse. The "women's rights activists" (WRA) fear their funding will diminish or even dry up if the truth gets out and some of the funding goes to help abused men. Many of them have just posted their anti-male propaganda and then blocked me, probably thinking I can't reply in my own thread.

@Caroline259 Some of those whose misandrist propaganda I've challenged have blocked me too.

@Nitedoc It was good to see the police taking action against a female abuser for a change. I do wonder if they would have been so helpful if he hadn't been able to collect so much irrefutable evidence though.

@Sharon I don't think they would have. A phone camera video of what is happening goes a long way.

@XxEllaxRawrxX I attend about twice as many domestic abuse incidents involving a male victim of a female abuser as vice versa. Of course, I'm only called to incidents where someone has been seriously injured. The authorities tend to move in much earlier in the case of female victims so the situation is less likely to result in serious injuries in thiose cases.

@ChipmunkErnie A colleague attended a domestic abuse incident where the female abuser was arrested. She (the abuser) complained bitterly, claiming - "You can't arrest me for domesic violence, I'm a woman!" https://similarworlds.com/relationships/abusive/4440688-But-Im-a-Woman-A-colleague-told-me-about-a

@Caroline259 I'm not really surprised by her reaction. Some women seem to think they have the right to abuse men and generally do as they wish with total impunity.

@NortiusMaximus Well, they have been told that for decades, with impressive backup by the courts, so it's more surprising when they DON'T think that.
I have a friend that 50 years ago was stabbed in the shoulder by his abusive 1st wife. When the police asked him if he would press charges, he said why? They'll never believe >6' >200# me is innocent of provoking 5' 100# her.

@cecile maybe cause I’m not American but don’t understand

@Strictextendedfamily It's an expression common in the UK . It basically means it should have happened sooner.

@Sharon ok thank you

@Highskirt As a paramedic who has attended too many similar incidents of female on male violence, that program didn't show me anything I hadn't seen before. :(

@Fluffybull Just like misogyny, with a different target.

@SteelHands Not all female abusers are in a romantic relationship with the man they abuse, though.

It's not so easy as packing your stuff if you are being abused by your mother or sister.

@HootyTheNightOwl I get that concept. The worst aspect. Some boys don't even know they're being psychologically and morally abused because they don't have anything to compare their world to yet.

Then when they reach adulthood they end up as twisted and immature as their mothers and sisters.