My Wife, My Abuser

@HootyTheNightOwl Hopefully, as society becomes more aware of male victims of domestic abuse, there will be more shelters. I'm very pleased (albeit surprised) the police took action in this case. It's only a pity the courts let her off with that pathetically lenient sentence.

@Caroline259 Much more work needs to be done in educating about abuse and reactive abuse in general.

Not only is it far too easy for a female abuser to get a male survivor arrested for abuse - but female survivors are being challenged for reacting to their abuse in public, too.

As far as sentencing goes, I don't think that they would be much tougher on the crime if it had been a male abuser attacking a female survivor.

Domestic abuse sentences tend to be way too lenient unless someone turns up dead.

@HootyTheNightOwl Women additionally benefit from the "female sentencing discount" - an automatic reduction just for being female.

@HootyTheNightOwl That's exactly right. My sis and her hub are both police officers.

The policy is when called to a domestic incident always arrest the male. Regardless of who made the initial the call and regardless of what the officers establish by speaking to the 2 people or what the 2 people say. If the woman claims she's been assaulted but has no injuries believe the woman. If the man claims he's been assaulted but has no injuries don't believe him. If the man has injuries and the woman doesn't assume they were in self-defence and arrest the man.

To do anything other than arrest the male the officers would need to call the duty inspector for permission, giving their reasons. Most sensible officers wouldn't even bother making the call because if they don't arrest the male and something bad happens to the female afterwards that would lead to an inquiry which would most likely mean loss of job. Even if they made the call and the inspector gave permission to not arrest the male at the subsequent inquiry the inspector would say I relied on my officer at the scene. Clearly he got it wrong - sack him.

Of course some of the more intelligent males will lawyer up and sue the police afterwards for wrongful arrest. The police don't mind that, they'll happily pay compensation with no come back on the officer.

This is nothing to do with the police claim of protecting the public - it's all about the police avoiding blame and protecting themselves. And of course the officers following the rules and not wanting to lose their job.

@JonUK31 I've seen that in practice when I've attended incidents where the male victim has been seriously injured. Even when we've had to blue light a male victim to A&E the police still seemed to have the attitude that he was the offender.