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My Wife, My Abuser

I hope that Channel 5 progam will cause those misandrists, who claim only men can be abusers and only women can be victims of domestic abuse, with rethink their position. At least the authorities in some areas are starting to take female on male domestic abuse seriously.
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Richard65 · M
They're only just taking male on female domestic abuse seriously.
Caroline259 · 56-60, F
@Richard65 I disagree. They've been arresting and charging men for domestic abuse, on the flimiest of "evidence", for decades. Until I started as an ambulance technician, even I thought it was almost exclusively male on female.
Richard65 · M
@Caroline259 are you in the UK? Men have abused women for decades with impunity.
Caroline259 · 56-60, F
@Richard65 Yes I am in the UK but I've never known of a case where the police have refused to accept a woman's complaint of domestic abuse. I've known of several cases where abused men have been ignored, or even arrested as abusers, though.

I've had to blue light badly injured male victims of domestic abuse to A&E quite a few times.
@Richard65 That doesn't mean that we can rest on our laurels and look the other way as women get away with abusing men.

Female on male abuse is already underreported because too many men fear that they won't be believed.
Richard65 · M
@HootyTheNightOwl no, I agree. My comment was a lament really. I hate abusive people. I'm all for more awareness of the issues
Richard65 · M
@Caroline259 according to Refuge, two women per week are killed by abusive partners in England and Wales. I was just lamenting that fact really. I agree with you, but we still have a long way to go.
@Richard65 I have had to intervene to stop my sister in law from stabbing soon to be ex between the shoulder blades with a knife the day after their brother's funeral.

All he did was to tap her wrist on the counter to get her to drop the knife. She went outside and really hit her arm against a wall to make it bruise up so that they had something to show the police to get soon to be ex arrested (she was seen doing that - and I witnessed soon to be ex disarm her).

The police conveniently had no interest in recording on the statements that she had a knife in her hand.

I also had to grab a iron poker off her on another occasion before she could hit the brother who died with it... He had terminal throat cancer at the time.
Richard65 · M
@HootyTheNightOwl I understand you, but that's one incident amongst thousands, so it's hard to gauge the overall situation. Mankind reports that 13 men died at the hands of their partner or ex-partner compared to 56 women, on average, so it's still predominantly women who suffer. That's not to say the police shouldn't deal effectively with all cases, men and women.
Caroline259 · 56-60, F
@Richard65 The actual figure is 100 [b]people[/b] per year, of which about 30 - 40 are [b]men[/b]. Refuge is a feminist (misandrist?) organization with a vested interest in maintaining the myth that domestic abuse is almost exclusively male on female.
Caroline259 · 56-60, F
@HootyTheNightOwl [quote]Female on male abuse is already underreported because too many men fear that they won't be believed.[/quote]
That belief is well founded. Abused men were (are?) routinely ignored by the authorities.
Caroline259 · 56-60, F
@HootyTheNightOwl [quote]She went outside and really hit her arm against a wall to make it bruise up so that they had something to show the police to get soon to be ex arrested (she was seen doing that - and I witnessed soon to be ex disarm her).[/quote]
That's actually quite a common tactic used by abusive women. It's another way they abuse their male partners.
@Richard65 [quote]Men have abused women for decades with impunity.[/quote]
You have that the wrong way around. Women have abused men with almost total impunity for decades.
Richard65 · M
@NortiusMaximus unfortunately all the stats say you're wrong.
@Richard65 Unfortunately, the statistics support what I say. Only the misandrist propaganda claims I'm wrong.
Caroline259 · 56-60, F
@Richard65 What "stats" are you referring to? All those I've seen support @NortiusMaximus. I have a personal interest in this as my husband is a survivor of domestic abuse from a previous relationship.
Richard65 · M
@Caroline259 your statement that Refuge is a feminist organisation peddling a myth about abuse just makes me shake my head. You're simply saying my stats are a myth and yours are right because they back up your theory. I've got nothing else to say to you.
Caroline259 · 56-60, F
@Richard65 Refuge presents itself as an organization to help victims of domestic violence but it's clear from their website that they only care about female victims - (I quote) "For women and children. Against domestic violence". The statistics I go by are from independent, academic studies such as the Home Office Research Study - HORS191. I note you didn't bother to answer my question as to which statistics you're referring to.
Philth · 46-50, M
@Richard65 and how many of the staggering number of male suicides are related to abuse by women?
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@Richard65 There are too many people who seem to think female perpetrated domestic abuse against men is something of a joke. None of the comments here are misogynistic but yours tend towards misandry.
Richard65 · M
@NortiusMaximus I've never met anyone who treated that issue as a joke. Like most arguments on social media, people think their personal opinion or individual experiences represent the entire situation country-wide. They don't.
Sharon · F
@NortiusMaximus Misandrists' heads always pop up whenever anyone dares to suggest that men can be victims of domestic abuse too.
Richard65 · M
@Sharon nobody is denying men aren't victims, you're making a strawman argument.
Sharon · F
@Richard65 No but you're making an effort to minimise the problem by making it appear insignificant.

Double negative noted.
Richard65 · M
@Sharon another straw man argument. You're pretty good at making those.