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When we first married and I got my first paycheck in my married name I proudly gave it to my husband to put in the deposit . Being a foolish newlywed himself he told me to cash it because it really wasn’t all that much. Instant tears and hurt feelings. Later I started making a lot more than he did . He had no idea until he wanted to know which account to write a check out of .

If who makes the most is that big a deal in your relationship , is it really love ???

I think men are hard wired to provide protect, provision is the main way they protect in the modern world. It's not politically correct to admit this if you're a man but I think if a woman earns more, it can impact his self worth and ultimately breed resentment and a relationship will suffer.

For most of my marriage I’ve made more money than my husband. It takes pressure off of him, which is good for both of us. I take pride in my independence, work, and ability to earn, so it works for us.

none of that should ever matter

I would enjoy her jacuzzi.

Stereotypical gender roles are pretty unimportant to me as I’m gay but there’s more ways to be spoilt than just spending money on them. I care for my wife, rub her back and feet, bathe her, write her sweet notes, and just do kind sweet things for her. If I want to buy her something I do, it doesn’t matter who technically earned each dollar. It’s our money and sometimes I’ll get her something she wants but wouldn’t have gotten herself with our money.

I'm not sure money is necessarily the metric by which gender roles should be measured.

years ago i drove for a major soda company and was the union steward for the drivers.they hired a young girl as a driver and she was kind of small and back then it was a hard job bottles were heavy all returnables no cans.she did her job as well as all the rest of us and i was just waiting for them to say she wasnt strong enough.she outworked half of the guys.

I make stupid money for my job, but with stupid money, comes stupid spending, and alas,
My wife works her tail off cleaning at my job, at only a fraction of what I make to help match ends. I long for the days gone bye where she didn't have to work if she chose not to. 🤗🤑🤗
But we never argue over money, bills, or material things. It's love and family that only matter. ❤️

My wife makes almost equal money as me. I never take her money instead I transfer my money to her for savings. Money is not everything. My mother is a home maker and my father is a doctor. Managing a house is a very difficult task. We all live as a family supporting each other. Everybody do their own work and this is how it is.

My first wife didn’t work which eventually became a bone of contention. My current fiancé does well, but I’m still the primary earner.

What I appreciate is that when I get a gift it’s actually from her instead of using my money to buy me a gift. That’s ok, but it gets old.

My view is that it is very common and many men I know are ok with it. It is increasingl happening, and this has to be good?

You seem concerned not about yourself but about “spoiling” which seems like not a bad place to. Enjoy that!

if a women was making more money than me i would be happy as hell for her. they dont give money away so she is working for it

I personally don't feel some way about a woman making more than me. Its not emasculating, it just makes a better team in a way.

money is not the most important thing in a good relationship and if it is somthings wrong

Women are hard wired to seek out a provider and protector. They can’t help it. If he makes less than you it makes the relationship harder.

I never gave it much thought, so i guess it doesn't mmatter much to me

I would be a happy house husband. 😌

I would probably start leaving brochures of new power tools and sketches of things I could build (like a gazebo) on the coffee table. And hopefully she would buy me a reciprocating saw or something cool like that. Cheers!

Might want to keep it to yourself but do let him know that you don't have any debt. I have an old gf that is hundreds of thousands in debt. Not touching her with a ten foot pole.

much as it would hurt me if my future woman makes more money and earnings than me,,,, but then its best that her money is spent on herself.. I would not ever touch it... its my ego. that a home is to be run with mans money spent...

Maybe I don’t get the heterosexual world but I’m used to the women I’m with making more than me 💀 mostly because I’m an underachiever, so I admire her work ethic and education.

When I was married many years ago there was a time when I made more money, I was promoted, then he was. There was nothing to be "done". In a partnership between equals it should be manageable for the household expenses, with no resentment on either side.

If she made more money i woulent care i would still buy her stuff as little gifts and such and be the trophy partner when not

I think I might feel slightly threatened but maybe it could be cool as I would like to be looked after and bought things lol!

It doesn’t matter as long as respect is there. As soon as any disrespect rears it’s ugly head then ✌🏾.

I love being spoiled by people of either gender.

Rob her at gunpoint

Wouldn't care.

Its absolutely alright when you are in a relationship then there is nothing your or mine..its ours

A friend of mine married a woman who made about five times what he made. That was about 20 years ago and they are still happily married.

Nothing wrong in that ... i spoilt my FB

I used to work with a guy whose wife made four times as much as he did, she's an admin assistant to a college chancellor, beaucoup bucks, he admitted he only works for them to save money to go to Disneyland every three months.