I'm really not sure if this therapist is the right one for me?

I sometimes feel like my therapist talks more about herself than she should.
I'm trying to stick 3 months with it, because I'm kind of a person who doesn't always give things a chance.
I don't even know how to say this without sounding bad, but I don't feel a connection with this lady and it almost seems like cartoonish advice then cue the sad face ...hers- not mine.
She talked about the death of her cat like it was some kind of comparison to the death of my husband?
I know losing a pet can be devastating I've lost a few, but didn't really seem appropriate.
Everything she says sounds like something you could get from reading a first year textbook on basic psychology, I know, because I took that class.
I have another meeting on Wednesday.

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Coralmist · 41-45, F

I feel for you. I've noticed mine also can talk about herself too. But what frustrates me is she mainly nods to very serious issues I have. No real healing methods, tips or any way of challenging my anxiety. I will probably change soon..I really have not had a lot of positive experiences with most therapists. 😟

Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F

@Coralmist to be honest I haven't either

morrgin · F

Just say its not a good fit. They wont hold it against you.

Shybutwilling2bfriends · 61-69

You definitely need a new therapist

Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F

@Shybutwilling2bfriends
I'm beginning to think that ,too.
Sometimes ,I'm not sure ,because I just cut and run if I don't like something, but I find myself dreading the sessions which can't be good.

Shybutwilling2bfriends · 61-69

@Justmeraeagain if you feel this same way after your next visit find another one for sure

deathfairy ·

girl, just get a new therapist. you will regret staying longer. if the shoe doesn’t fit.. don’t try to make it.. you’re only torturing yourself.

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deathfairy ·

okay, that’s not too bad 🥹 have you been to any therapists before her? @Justmeraeagain

Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F

@deathfairy really long time ago and she wasn't much better .
once I told her I didn't think writing down all my blessings was going to make me not depressed she said she couldn't do anything for me and basically was booted out of the office.

deathfairy ·

lol, how weak. and you aren’t wrong, writing down blessings only works for some things, like rewiring your mentality short term. and a therapist that can’t take a challenge or a truth from their client has things they need to work on themselves.

i would change her to someone else, see how the new one feels and if it still isn’t a good fit, since you mentioned it maybe try the group therapy? again, i am just a random on sw, and i believe you know what you need better than i can ever say.

everything is easier done in thought, and opinions are the easiest thing to give out. you deserve to be heard and seen and understood. i am proud of you for making the time to meet yourself in your therapy space, you deserve a good therapist who can meet you there also. @Justmeraeagain

ThePatientAnarchist · 61-69

Dump her

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