I’m sorry, I just have to ask*

@Queendragonfly Within a very short time, you have become a great addition to SW!

@TryingtoLava

@DrWatson

@DrWatson That is entirely possible, too.

@OogieBoogie that is why i dojt offer up advice very much and wait for people to ask question if they are really ready to ne helped

@Arorin sadly, ive learnt to try and [b]not[/b] give advice, (especially here)....even if its an easy doable thing .

People dont really want advice , they want empathy. Some want sympathy.
But not advice .
Advice means you have to do something, usually something out of your comfort zone....and most of us HATE that😂

i mean, i tried to tell someone a breathing 'hack' for activating the parasympathetic nervous system, (they wanted to feel less anxious).
Its a medically proven 5 or 10 minute therapy to slow heart rate, reduced blood pressure, anxiety, stress and ease the body into a more relaxed state ....and you just have to time your breathing. That was all.

But no.

The user rejected the idea, and was happier to entertain ideas of changing or increasing medication, changing therapists, feeling condemned to a life of anxiety episodes and/or even deciding to avoid any experiences that could trigger anxiety.

Anything , but trying to grow or change within one self. They wanted 'exterior' solutions.

which also relates back to this post ....'everyone else is the problem', its 'everything else needs to change to make me better'.
We arent arent good at talking advice anymore .....it means work, and effort ....and painful stuffs😅
And we arent used to that. We are used to 'easy, entertaining, and immedate' .🤷‍♀️

@OogieBoogie i mean i pretty much grew up on a farm so i can work hard and when people speak to me honestly if it makes sense then i usually trust it. I think that speaking of my own experiences people can see what i do or did then make a decision if they want to approach me or follow some stuff i did.

@JimboSaturn It's probably not a question of intelligence but upbringing.

@ninalanyon Well this user called everyone older. And why is everyone older than me? But of course when you are 22, most people are older than you; that's just common sense. Some serious logic problems there lol

@ninalanyon That is sad, but worth considering.

@TryingtoLava Must've been from a while ago, I went back 6 hours and I don't see it.

@MsSwan Every time I try to look back in the feed, different stuff comes up...

@fun4us2b I hate that. I really, legitimately hate the way the feed works. I know the admins are working to try and make it pleaseing to everybody all at once, and I'm not saying that ain't hard, but I hate the way it works now.

@craig7 Yes, [b]that[/b] had me cracking up laughing. 😄

@bijouxbroussard 😃

@bookerdana True.

@bijouxbroussard
one of my favorite gifs 🤭

@bijouxbroussard the airplane example I admit is extreme.

Yet the extreme examples are often rooted in the lesser examples.

They can get away with the lesser why not go for the extreme.

Look at Trump's rhetoric over his four year term, then look at what happened on January 6th.

No real violence was actually promoted by Trump. Yet he was as rude and offensive as he can possibly get without being arrested for inciting violence.

He knew exactly what he was doing. People will follow the leader then take it up a further step.

You know music. Think about music progression.

Rock and roll progressed into acid rock then other hateful or negative types. Punk and Grunge are extremes.

[quote]No real violence was actually promoted by Trump.[/quote]
Well…
@DeWayfarer [media=https://youtu.be/Ndpe09emTSA]

@bijouxbroussard exactly though, listen closer to him. "Knock the crap out of them" is meaningless legally. It's often said euphemistically.

I still stand that he was extremely careful on the words he chose. Keeping it right on the grey side of the law.

It's his followers he knew that would exceed the grey side and eventually do the violence.

He knew they would attempt a progression with his egging them ever onward, with him carrying a bullhorn, standing on the legal division line.

That is how you can incite a riot without being legally libel. Legally it can be done. The laws need to be changed on this.

@bijouxbroussard yup. 🖤🤗

@bijouxbroussard I Joined ep when it was at some like 300k experiences, 20+ years ago? Been here since ep closed. When I joined ep it was the year I lost my wife, my family and my home. I was a mess to be sure. Getting involved with someone here was a mistake. THey were married with no intention of leaving their partner at the time. I should have known better. It didn't help. If I have somehow offended your personal hang-ups, I apologize. Sincerely. Certainly not new to ep or here.

@Steve42 I’m not criticizing you, and I’m really sorry if you’re taking it personally. I’m asking the question of some people who have come in, new, attacking the community itself and then wonder why they’re being blocked and why they’re not having a positive experience here. A new post prompted this, but I’ve seen it happen often before.

There’s [b]huge[/b] difference between venting about one’s own situation vs. coming in and insulting everyone. Btw, I joined EP while still working through having lost my husband and only child in a car accident some years ago. I wasn’t talking about it in rl, so I thought EP would be helpful. It [b]was[/b], but I took time to get to see how things were there, first. And I tried to be respectful as a newcomer. 🥺

@OogieBoogie Yes, thank you ! 😅

@NinaTina and some came from that teen app vent