Please comment I need advice

Some people see their lover as a project. Like they want to change everything about their lover. And yes it is miserable being with such a person. Last person I tried to date was trying to flip my entire existence upside down. We did not last.

Based on your comments to someone else, I believe your control needs come out of a trauma response, which has then given you a certain kind of attachment style. If someone doesn't fit the container you've 'built' for what makes you feel safe in a relationship, you'd flip.
I'd suggest you start there, by tracing back your attachment styles and the roots of your insecurities.

The best relationships are the kind that make us feel good about being ourselves.

Ideally, you discuss what a relationship is while you are dating. You don't wait until you are in one before communicating your standards. Relationships include compromise. People have to be who they are is correct. Do not lose you in one. I think you are dissatisfied and this situation cannot be reconciled. Life is full of learning. Keep learning.

💯 feel this….
we all have our own ways, how we approach life, if someone isn’t doing it your way, that’s doesn’t mean it wrong.

I’ve been on the receiving end, it’s hard having someone constantly try and change you.
Criticism kills relationships 😞

It's easy.. If they want it to be a certain way and you don't want to go there and there is no avenue for compromise then that's the end of the relationship.. Time to move on..

It's nice when people agree with what you want.

Yes, everyone has different wishes and expectations of relationships. Part of a successful one is compromising, but if two people's views are too different, it's simply not going to work and they should both find a different partner they are more compatible with.

Best i can is

Rejected

For all of those who've been rejected.
Please remember you were first selected.
Then as they got to really know.
How you think and thoughts just flow.
When they got to know you well.
To freely speak and to tell.
Its then you learn they aren't for you.
They listened on but weren't so true.
You'd stand and cry, pour your heart.
But all they done was TV start.
Then it’s your fault because you changed.
Although it’s them who rearranged.
You opened up to a wall.
Which you climbed but from you fall.
Failed to scale the dizzy height.
To meet the level for their delight.
Then they say it’s goodbye for good.
Then you realise you really should.
The faults not yours they were to blame.
Playing stupid mind twisting game.

In that case, you're not making them miserable. They're making themselves miserable by not going for what they really want or need in a partner.

If either party is truly miserable, it is time to move on ...

Thats sounds like controlling or manipulation to me,
The more get involved with someone like that the more controlling they will become
From the way you you worded this post, you know what you have to do ❤️

🤷🏻‍♀️ It’s important to end things then so both people can go find mates they are compatible with, not insist on changing them, and not settle for a relationship that makes you miserable too.

It sounds like you don't want a relationship; you want an "arrangement."

yes and that's no way to go on

That’s why communication is key.

What makes you happy?