Please comment I need advice

Do you know you can make someone completely miserable by demanding the relationship fit your idea of what a committed relationship should be, demanding your own way and not accepting that people have to be who they are and do what makes them happy.

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SW-User

Based on your comments to someone else, I believe your control needs come out of a trauma response, which has then given you a certain kind of attachment style. If someone doesn't fit the container you've 'built' for what makes you feel safe in a relationship, you'd flip.
I'd suggest you start there, by tracing back your attachment styles and the roots of your insecurities.