It is ok for anyone to appreciate beauty or handsomeness..

I cannot judge anyone on this, but in my opinion, having a cruch is incontrolable and it should be ok as long as you keep it as a crush only and only to yourself....

It’s wrong if you allow it to go from a crush in your mind to a possible real relationship or fling

I think work crushes are pretty innocent as long as you aren't sneaking into closest for makeout sessions ..

My boss flirts with guys and she is married lol I think it’s normal 🤷‍♀️

You can have a crush, doesn’t mean to say you’re going to act upon it

It happens and I've managed to stay faithful while I was married. The thought of more romance can be intoxicating!

Depends on marriage type and complications really.. there is no scope for extra marital at all if a woman or a man is happy with his or her partner

I think its pretty normal. It seems there is always someone that I have a crush on.

Nope. Married or not, you can't stop who you develop an attraction to. It's an entirely different matter to act upon those feelings though. That should always be done with the consent, and understanding of one's partner. And if that's not possible, then stick to the "look but don't touch" rule.

It’s normal in many cases.

Nooe

No, as long as it's just an attraction that doesn't lead to anything.

I thought that this was normal.

I have a crush on one of the dad's at work. I'm a preschool teacher. OMG he's too cute. My hubby has a crush on a coworker also. We don't act on it as we're too long in the tooth for that nonsense. It's a nice feeling and puts a pep in my step. It's good we can talk about it.

Not "wrong" in the moral sense.
Several changes could occur.
- She takes no action, eventually gets to know the coworker better (through the daily working processes, discovers her crush is not what she first imagined, and loses interest.
- She tries to initiate an affair and discovers her crush is not interested.
- She initiates, the crush accepts, they have an affair and it soon falls apart.
- She tells her husband. They divorce. She initiates, then discovers it was all a huge mistake and ends it.
- She doesn't tell her husband, initiates, the new lover turns out to be far better on every level (so far). She tells her husband or he finds out and they divorce.
- She tells her husband. He gets furious, but then they work out why she has those feelings, and they find a way to meet her needs for love (perhaps more romance/variety/better foreplay/more intimate communication of feelings/more quality time together, etc). She loses interest in the crush and their marriage improves.
- If the married couple already has kids, that complicates things and introduces more factors that could change the outcomes.

Moral of the story:
it's not the feelings that create the problems; it's what we choose to do about the feelings.

I'd say that's between the two married people. Everyone defines their sexuality, boundaries and agreements differently.

Flirtation is simply another form of communication. it makes no promises, demands nothing. It's simply a way to flatter and be flattered, and it occurs in some form another between all kinds of people.

I don't believe anyone can control their feelings for another. One can stay true to their boundaries, but it's important to understand and respect that not everyone's boundaries are the same.

Doesn't matter where you get your appetite as long as you eat your meals at home!

If you're attracted, you're attracted. It's what you do with that feeling is important.

You cant help who you have a crush on. only how you respond to that crush

It happens. Nothing wrong with that.

nope its quite normal

There’s a difference between finding someone attractive and having feelings for them. If a married person finds someone else attractive I see no problem. But if they’re starting to act on it then yes it’s a problem.

Let me translate this- Do you think for a human being with a spectrum of emotions, that's in a socially constructed unity to feel an emotion and have natural bodily and mental reactions to outside stimulus which happens to be someone she frequently encounters?

Not at all ,, life to short not to enjoy a good crush now and then ,,

We can't control who we get a crush on. It's how we react to that crush. Even a married women could follow through if her marriage was not up to par

Having a crush is beyond your control, but within your control are your actions. Consider the misery that extra marital affairs bring, not just to you but others, and do not entertain thoughts of this person. Look away.

Sometimes that can’t be helped but what would be wrong is if she acted on it

Sure. I love them. A little harmless spark in the day so long as everyone acts like an adult.

Natural attraction is...well...natural. What is important is not to let it turn into lust.

natural i think

Only you can determine if your actions are right or wrong

It would be wrong to act on it

We can't help our feelings but you just be careful else you can break up two marriages

It happens....

Been there

No, a crush is just that, a crush.

I think we all have them

It only BECOMES wrong when you choose to DO something with that crush (as in.. cheating on your husband). If it's just fantasy and warm fuzzy feelings and you try to avoid this co-worker as much as you can, and you stay firm not to DO anything with your feelings, it'll go away.

do you want to act on it? do youo want to sneak around, and hope it does not get out?
is the attractions enough for you to deal with what might come?
Sometimes a crush is just that, a moment of Limerence let i cook a while.
if you dont act, it might be the best

Right or Wrong is up to the individual
how does it feel, "in your gut"

Feelings are often neither right nor wrong. It is our decisions and actions that are right or wrong. And I think it is perfectly natural for married people to develop crushes on others.

Wrong or right makes little difference in matters of the heart. Instead of wrestling with that question, I’d try to understand what motivates the attraction.

No nothing is wrong. Love/ Liking is never wrong, its the jealousy that is wrong. Its the fear that makes us think its wrong. Its all good if no one is hurt

How can anyone control having a crush on someone?
What may become wrong is acting on that crush(es) without letting your partner know.

ya can't really control your crushes, now can you? just your actions

I guess we are all only human, however to take it further, unless you are in an open relationship, now that would be wrong because it involves dishonesty

I think it depends on the nature of the crush and the nature of relationship for the married couple. I don't think there is anything wrong with finding someone attractive, that's not even something someone has control over. If the nature of the crush evolves to behavior that one is uncomfortable being open with their significant other about, that would be problematic to me. What that line is depends on the married couple. Some couples are perfectly content with their significant other sleeping with other people even though to most that would be completely unacceptable. I think most couples would be comfortable with their significant other having lunch with a co-worker. But, if you have lunch with a co-worker and feel guilty about it, I would question what you're getting out of your relationship with that coworker, are they just a friend or are they providing you emotionally with something that your spouse should be providing? If you feel guilty about the nature of your interactions with someone, I'd continued thatwrong and would suggest to do some introspection about why that is and if there is something within the marriage they might be lacking and needs to be addressed.

It depends on how you act on those feelings. I don't think it's wrong to have them, but it's wrong to act on them.

I don’t think you can control crushes. They happen. The question is whether you act on them or not.

its very natural