Do you think it's wrong for a married woman to have a crush on someone, like a coworker?
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Not "wrong" in the moral sense.
Several changes could occur.
- She takes no action, eventually gets to know the coworker better (through the daily working processes, discovers her crush is not what she first imagined, and loses interest.
- She tries to initiate an affair and discovers her crush is not interested.
- She initiates, the crush accepts, they have an affair and it soon falls apart.
- She tells her husband. They divorce. She initiates, then discovers it was all a huge mistake and ends it.
- She doesn't tell her husband, initiates, the new lover turns out to be far better on every level (so far). She tells her husband or he finds out and they divorce.
- She tells her husband. He gets furious, but then they work out why she has those feelings, and they find a way to meet her needs for love (perhaps more romance/variety/better foreplay/more intimate communication of feelings/more quality time together, etc). She loses interest in the crush and their marriage improves.
- If the married couple already has kids, that complicates things and introduces more factors that could change the outcomes.
Moral of the story:
it's not the feelings that create the problems; it's what we choose to do about the feelings.
Several changes could occur.
- She takes no action, eventually gets to know the coworker better (through the daily working processes, discovers her crush is not what she first imagined, and loses interest.
- She tries to initiate an affair and discovers her crush is not interested.
- She initiates, the crush accepts, they have an affair and it soon falls apart.
- She tells her husband. They divorce. She initiates, then discovers it was all a huge mistake and ends it.
- She doesn't tell her husband, initiates, the new lover turns out to be far better on every level (so far). She tells her husband or he finds out and they divorce.
- She tells her husband. He gets furious, but then they work out why she has those feelings, and they find a way to meet her needs for love (perhaps more romance/variety/better foreplay/more intimate communication of feelings/more quality time together, etc). She loses interest in the crush and their marriage improves.
- If the married couple already has kids, that complicates things and introduces more factors that could change the outcomes.
Moral of the story:
it's not the feelings that create the problems; it's what we choose to do about the feelings.
