I'm devastated I'm so devastated I was just released by my dom, and although I know the reason...

TiHDaily4u · 51-55, M

I find it troubling you were released for a misbehavior. Most Doms/Masters revel in correction and training their subs, so something else seems to be amiss here. I am compassionate toward your loss and feelings of rejection, but a rejection should never define you or set you course for the future. Sure it will cause you to be more aware and learn, but being a sub deep within your core will be what ultimatley serves you and your new Master. Feelings are real but also fleeting..... hope and belief will move you toward your ultimate place at the feet of your Master... believe in yourself... your new Master surely will.

SW-User

Think for yourself for once and figure out that you don't need other people to tell you what to do.

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InvaderNice · 26-30, M

The relationship was consensual, right?

I'm really sorry this happened to you. This is probably not what you want to hear, but the only thing that can heal this is time. Meanwhile, remember that it's okay to be sad. You should be sad. You lost someone important to you.

Being a sub requires a lot of self control and discipline, which also happens to be what's required for moving on in life. You can do this.

Sweet517 · 51-55, F

Did he release you or just disappear? A good Dom, online or IRL is usually expected to see to the well being of his sub after release. It's not like breaking up with someone where you have no more contact. It's a process.

Miram · 31-35, F

I am sorry but I am not going to comfort you with kind words like everyone else.

There is a phase where you have to realize what you did wrong before moving on. You have to process your part. You can do so while being selfcompassionate of course.

I think the fact that this was online is the biggest flaw you need to consider. Strictly online emotional commitment and investments aren't worth it. You put too much of you for little in return..

Shade70 · 51-55, M

There's going to be an adjustment period the same as there would be in any relationship. Use it to assess what happened, to decide what you want and to orient yourself toward goals and plans that you have for life. Lean on friends and, above all, don't grab at the first thing that comes along and fall into the rebound trap. I've seen many bad relationships start that way.