I'm devastated

I'm so devastated I was just released by my dom, and although I know the reason why (it was my fault) I am finding it difficult to cope without him. He suddenly disappeared and I can't move on.
Any advice?

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Sweet517 · 51-55, F

Did he release you or just disappear? A good Dom, online or IRL is usually expected to see to the well being of his sub after release. It's not like breaking up with someone where you have no more contact. It's a process.

Jeyja220 · F

@Sweet517 he disappeared

GoodoldBob · 61-69, M

@Jeyja220 How long ago? Once I was accused of abandoning someone when I was out of touch for only six days because I had been ill.

Sweet517 · 51-55, F

@Jeyja220 Then he has not released you. IMHO he is not doing his job as a Dom. You don't just abandon a sub. It's part of the dynamic between Dom and sub. You put your trust in your Dom. If you did something to upset your Dom, I should think he would be expected, even required to address it. He abandoned you and I'm sorry.

Jeyja220 · F

About three weeks and it happened right after I misbehaved

Sweet517 · 51-55, F

@Jeyja220 his job is to address misbehavior. No?

GoodoldBob · 61-69, M

@Jeyja220 That is not right. It's somewhat childish in my opinion. He failed you. You are probably better off without him if he is that shallow.