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I'm devastated

I'm so devastated I was just released by my dom, and although I know the reason why (it was my fault) I am finding it difficult to cope without him. He suddenly disappeared and I can't move on.
Any advice?
SW-User
Think for yourself for once and figure out that you don't need other people to tell you what to do.
SW-User
@InvaderNice Cause life is harsh.
InvaderNice · 26-30, M
@SW-User Is that really your only reason?
Jeyja220 · F
@InvaderNice awww you're so sweet
TiHDaily4u · 51-55, M
I find it troubling you were released for a misbehavior. Most Doms/Masters revel in correction and training their subs, so something else seems to be amiss here. I am compassionate toward your loss and feelings of rejection, but a rejection should never define you or set you course for the future. Sure it will cause you to be more aware and learn, but being a sub deep within your core will be what ultimatley serves you and your new Master. Feelings are real but also fleeting..... hope and belief will move you toward your ultimate place at the feet of your Master... believe in yourself... your new Master surely will.
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Jeyja220 · F
@Sniper I need to be punished so bad
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InvaderNice · 26-30, M
The relationship was consensual, right?

I'm really sorry this happened to you. This is probably not what you want to hear, but the only thing that can heal this is time. Meanwhile, remember that it's okay to be sad. You should be sad. You lost someone important to you.

Being a sub requires a lot of self control and discipline, which also happens to be what's required for moving on in life. You can do this.
Jeyja220 · F
@InvaderNice yes it was consensual
Sweet517 · 51-55, F
Did he release you or just disappear? A good Dom, online or IRL is usually expected to see to the well being of his sub after release. It's not like breaking up with someone where you have no more contact. It's a process.
Jeyja220 · F
About three weeks and it happened right after I misbehaved
Sweet517 · 51-55, F
@Jeyja220 his job is to address misbehavior. No?
GoodoldBob · 61-69, M
@Jeyja220 That is not right. It's somewhat childish in my opinion. He failed you. You are probably better off without him if he is that shallow.
Miram · 31-35, F
I am sorry but I am not going to comfort you with kind words like everyone else.

There is a phase where you have to realize what you did wrong before moving on. You have to process your part. You can do so while being selfcompassionate of course.

I think the fact that this was online is the biggest flaw you need to consider. Strictly online emotional commitment and investments aren't worth it. You put too much of you for little in return..
Shade70 · 51-55, M
There's going to be an adjustment period the same as there would be in any relationship. Use it to assess what happened, to decide what you want and to orient yourself toward goals and plans that you have for life. Lean on friends and, above all, don't grab at the first thing that comes along and fall into the rebound trap. I've seen many bad relationships start that way.
Flenflyys · 31-35, F
Arent you supposed to honour his decision
Jeyja220 · F
@Flenflyys I don't know :(
Sweet517 · 51-55, F
@Flenflyys Ending a D/s relationship is supposed to be by mutual decision. He just abandoned her. That's cowardly at best imho
MeisterAndrew · 41-45, M
@Sweet517 Ending a D/s relationship is just like ending any other relationship and doesn't require the consent of both parties. We also don't know the reason.
Dasher12 · 36-40, M
Check out FetLife
Miram · 31-35, F
Is this some online Dom thingy?
Get an offline life and healthy relationship next time.
You are much more than sex roles.
Jeyja220 · F
@Miram yes it is
Sweet517 · 51-55, F
@Miram So called Doms do this IRL too. Sad but true
GoodoldBob · 61-69, M
Give yourself time. And don't rush into a new relationship trying to fill the void, you don't want to saddle yourself with someone incompatible
sighmeupforthat · 46-50, M
fun fetish story.. what else is going on with you in your online existence to drive in the PM customers...?
InvaderNice · 26-30, M
@sighmeupforthat Stop being an asshole
Jeyja220 · F
@sighmeupforthat it's actually working 😂😂
grow some balls
Jeyja220 · F
@metaldog but I don't have balls
InvaderNice · 26-30, M
@metaldog Get a heart.

 
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