I want to have an affair

When i was with my ex for 6 years i felt this way. He was such a jerk and i knew at some point id leave him. I tried to work with him for so many years. I also missed the giddiness and excitement of a new love unfolding but no matter who its with it will change because its just lust not love. I think when people think its love they will be disappointed to realise they wil go through many lovers in a lifetime and never find "the one" because thats not love. Its like being excited about the possibilities and not who they really are. Or infatuated with their looks until its routine and the shock value is gone. Thats when love comes in. When your heart stops racing and you she their raw selves maybe a year later and you say to yourself, i wouldnt change a thing.

Like Ladywolf says, end your marriage first if it's not working out.

My SO had an affair 9 yrs ago. And to this day I still despise her for it. The only releasing I stay with her is because of my kids. I don’t want them to suffer because one of us was selfish. Don’t get me wrong I thought about it many times myself but I know it would just be for revenge. I am not a petty person like that.
However once my youngest graduate HS, anything goes.

Yes, please at least tell your SO first. Even if you get away with the betrayal without being caught, it will still damage you whether you’re a POS or a good person. The fleeting feeling of excitement from the affair wanes, yet the fact you cheated and lied never will.

how about getting a divorce first? why risk hurting your partner and causing irreparable harm for your fleeting feelings? i have been there. it hurts

Dopamine is a helluva drug. Remember, you can't come back from the path you're about to tread.

I can understand that. It’s a very basic need we all have - there needs to be that special one.

Don’t do it! The damage done is too great, end your marriage first if you’re not happy.

Well, I want to have a circus, but they're so damn expensive.

Definitely get a divorce first. Just because you are going through male menopause doesn't mean you have to crush your wife's heart under your heel.

It’s not worth it. Put your energy into your SO!!

Ah the malady of marriage

I feel a mid-life crisis coming on ...

You are probably in the right place to vicariously foster that want , as long as you are ok with the logic of fantasy ..

Just so were clear , that I am in no way putting an offer on the table :)

What happens when the excitement wears off from the new person? You'll just keep going through life having one affair after another.

If that's what you want, then stay single.

You have spoken everything I'm feeling. It sucks when relationships lose their spark and gets boring. You want something different, someone to wake you up, cheer you up.

Your current partner probably feels the same.

Not a critique of you, just a reality in many many relationships.

Communication goes, then assumptions come in.

You want an affair? That WILL result in divorce. Emotional harm, yes. Consider the financial aspects. That affair will be much more expensive than legal fees.

Bad idea, in general. It won't end up as rewarding as you think.

It’s shallow. Don’t do it. The feeling is empty and won’t last.

I want a committed loving relationship

Have you discussed it with you wife?😂😂

No, just don’t.

Go be single

Hey, I get it but like everything else, it's a risk. All that you describe sounds great but think after the fact. How will you feel? Will you regret it or continue the affair? It's a choice you have to make with definite consequences regardless of your actions.