If my husband comes out and tells me that things didn't happen that actually did...

People choose to see what they want to see. No two people see the same thing exactly the same way, and some choose to rewrite what actually happened. My thought is he is in denial and chooses to see only what he wants to see. It is a rare individual who will be honest and see things for what they were or are.

To know exactly what he means you would have to be able to trust what he says so if you would ask him directly, he would tell you and you would not have to wonder. If I felt as you do, I would ask, because what he means might be something quite unexpected, and not what you are thinking, a perception maybe you have not considered or a topic not what you thought it was. Ask him.

I really dislike obscure comments that leave interpretation open to so many misunderstandings. When someone says something of this nature to me, if there is something important going on between us, I ask for details of what he means, and when I do, I often find out what he is referring to is not at all what I thought he was.

Could mean nothing, could mean he has a mental health issue, could mean he's a lying sack of crap. Could mean anything considering you asked such a vague and nebulous question.

Well if you know it's absolutely true, then I would say somebody else is lying, but they may not know the truth either, so there you are.

And lying to someone to bed them or to wed them is true heinous bullshit as well.

Sorry, these have been my experiences in life, and I hate lies and nonsupport of spouse or lover!

totally depends on if this is a distant memory or something recent... was it an action of his or just something that was seen. Too many variables to just say he is lying when he could just be remembering incorrectly, more details please.

Either one or both of you have a faulty memory... And that's not unusual, we all remember things differently, is a known fact.
I'm guessing it really depends on his often it happens

That he lied to you, and you should question his honesty. Thinking somehow that he was trying to protect you by lying about things to you was not protecting you at all and is definitely a selfish one-sided effort when as a married couple it should be a two sided effort you two against the world.

Gas lighting you? Especially if you both know the truth.

Memory is a tricky thing. We all can have false memories or forget things, memory is not always a reliable thing.

Sounds like gaslighting, whatever the circumstance, unless a simple misunderstanding.

Yea it’s definitely gaslighting and unhealthy behavior. I would remove yourself from it

You should watch "What I always wanted to know about sex, but was afraid to ask".

not enough info for anyone to be of help to you

Comes out as in admitting that he’s gay?

I guess it would depend on the context of conversation

that he is totally comfortable disrespecting you.

He’s been watching Fox News.

His memory isn’t good??

He is lying 🤥

Gaslighting

Depends on when it happened. If it was in the past, well its the past. But if it happened after he met you then its understandable to be pissed.

lies are the foundation of trouble
the question becomes,, WHY has he lied..
I am sorry this has touched you
I am willing to help you untangle it

I'm familiar with this also, even a few days later...could be age related as it seems to be getting worse over time.

There are some possibilities:

1. He missed it
2. Gaslighting/manipulation
3. He didn't fully grasp it

Gaslighting you and lying or his memory is completely messed up. Sorry.

Possibly not informed or misinformed, or chooses to ignore facts.

It means that you ask too many questions and you nag, nag, nag.

He’s a liar. Dump him.

Means he's full of shit

He is in denial

He's gaslighting