If my husband comes out and tells me that things didn't happen that actually did...

@WillaKissing my husband is a passive aggressive gaslighting lying twit. i hear how nice he is from a few people and i think they are lying...people treat him like he is smart but he isn't. he hides stuff from me for fun and insists it is in my head. he insists that everything i say from the past is made up. we have no life together or apart and i am afraid that he is hired just like every one of my previous boyfriends and friends. i know that it sounds paranoid but i don't have that characteristic at all.

@LILY61 So sad to read. My ex-wife was passive aggressive and crap like that too and not until we were divorcing did, I find out that we had 12K of her mother's back taxes paid for by our home equity loan that was supposed to be for our farm business development as an example.

@WillaKissing yikes! i gave up on the money issue. i used to do all the money stuff and he kept throwing wrenches into it and now we never seem to have money. i think he gives money to his brother. he keeps saying that he wants to leave our house to this no kill animal shelter but i have never been able to get him to go do it. so that means his no account brother and his murdering sister in law will get everything. i finally took my niece off of all of our paperwork. she has grown into an ass hat. and that made him happy. i know it shouldn't matter to me but i don't want evil people to get anything of mine ever...our insurance money will be quite a tidy sum.

@LILY61 Nextdoor neighbor endured this sort of thing for decades. I'd get out sooner than later. Life is too short.

@LILY61 I had a son and daughter that I raised on my own post-divorce. My son died at the age of 21 from a suicide, so everything I have goes to my daughter now. I would never give what I built to a shelter of other's that were not my children. But that is just me and not what everyone.

It sounds like you have set your mind to staying in the marriage and I pray you have peace with that.

@Neoerectus My exact sentiments as well, sooner than later I would get out.

@WillaKissing i have no choice. i have no one

@WillaKissing i am so sorry about your son. I can't imagine what you must be going through.

i have always suffered from severe depression because of what i was put through my entire life. Sometimes i feel like Jesus... I always thought everything in the world was back wards and should be dramatically changed to convince people to behave like humans. but now that i am old, i realize that kind good hearted people like me are the odd balls. and people ARE actually acting human.

of course, Jesus was able to find love, get married and have children.

@LILY61 Thank you for the condolences about my son. Yes, it haunts me daily, but I must live and God on in life until God calls me home. I still have my daughter to live for as well.

I used to think there were loving and decent folks in the world, but when it truly comes down to it they are very few and far between. This is the reason I have been single for the last 16 years. Easier living with myself and my own flaws and faults than to spend a miserable existence trying to please another that won't accept me as I am.

@WillaKissing yeah, i should have never married. i am far too nice and sensitive and sadly people are actually after me. they lie about me everywhere i go and i have contacted everyone and it won't stop.

@LILY61 I am so sorry for you.