Equality doesn't mean sameness. I think of it as a respect or completion thing and that we are equal in terms of the "usefulness" with what we bring to a marriage or relationship. In my marriage, only my husband worked for the majority of it. He also managed all of the finances and gave me an allowance. Did that mean I was less useful and that there was therefore inequality because I was a "kept woman" and didn't financially contribute?

I know there are some people who immediately think that's terrible and they would say that there was inequality but it worked for us. My husband financially provided and my role was to take care of the children and create a calm relaxing home with nurture and good food.

Both roles are equally important. We were equal because like a car needs fuel, working people need comfort and a space to relax to recharge their batteries and be able to continue to do the best job they can. So I worked hard to do that for the whole family and with that there was equality and value in terms of what we each brought.

But I can go further than this, even if there is a created power exchange where one person is consensually given more control than the other, for example in a structured D/s relationship, there's still a kind of equality in that you complete and 'feed' each other in terms of need.

I used to say to my husband, “What’s yours is mine, and what’s mine is mine.” 😄

We share the bills. He typically pays for date nights now, but when I earned more than him, I paid.

she will let you know when she is upset dont worry...if you want peace learn to say "yes dear" all the time😂

It depends on who makes more in my opinion. If there’s a large disparity, then the person who makes more money should pay for things. You can’t expect a fast food worker who works to make ends meet to pay for expensive dinners for example, if you can afford them. It would be nice that they offered every now and then though.
If both make an equal amount of money then both should share expenses.

For me, equality in a relationship isn’t about keeping score over money, doors, or dates. It’s about mutual respect, care, and doing what works for both people. I don’t earn, and my husband says I don’t need to, he considers his money ours, and I value that kind of partnership more than splitting of everything.

I was always old school. I paid and opened the doors.

Who wants to be equal - I am not a man and I don’t want to be involved with a woman. We both have differences which make us interesting, and even exciting to each other. Buy my dinner and maybe you’ll get lucky later :)

Equality us when we do everything my way and everyone agrees 😇

My money is my money. His money is his money. Her money is her money.

Équality is actually quite simple. It has little to do with money or the allocation or resources or tasks. It it simply about mutual respect for the comtributions of the other. And the ability to listen..😷

Equality is any level of mutually agreed consensus on how to share your time and resources. Note the word 'share' implies equal parts.

Sharing who is on top

I dont expect a man to pay for everything. I make good money too. But i do expect him to hold the door for me. Thats just common courtesy. Unless he has his hands full or is carrying something then of course i would hold the door for him.

a man should always hold the door open for a lady...should always pay on a date....women aren't expected to do anything from a man's perspective....a good woman already knows what/how to please her man

There's no such thing as equality in a relationship. People who think they have it, delude themselves. It's either a facade or a fading sunset.