How do you define a sexless marriage?

I guess to answer your question, I guess a low-sex marriage.

but on a more important note, would you two be open to marriage counseling ? intimacy is part of a marriage construct. She may have a low drive or may not feel connected to you, might be better not to assume you know why she isn't wanting sex with you.

You dont owe me an answer but internally maybe process: when you dated her, was her sex drive lower than yours? if so and sex is important to you (it is important to me too ) why did you marry her? If not what changed?

also for things you do not owe me an answer on but shoud internally process--what does she get out of sex with you? for example

* do you give her an orgasm ?
* do you bring toys into the bedroom (for her mostly)
* do you cuddle with her after sex or at other times without the expecation of sex?
*how much is foreplay part of intimacy for you both?

what else is going on in her life
* is she at a time with high anxiety in her life? financial anxiety being a big deal

and others

i am sorry for your pain

Mis matched levels of sexual desire ie libido are probably a common cause of relationships going out of sync with sexual connection and activity. Just my view from experiences I've had.

Jeez i can relate to the senario. Some one said to me once (a female friend) that i was just a flat mate sharing a bed . So true.

My wife is the same, she would if I asked, pretty sure, but no real incentive for it. Time for you to explore other things. :)

No, a sexless marriage means no sex....I've been in a sexless marriage for the last 20 years, and prior to that it was only a few times a year for a few years (which still wasn't sexless, but it was getting closer to it).

3 years ago we had a grate sex life. Then she went through the menopause and it slowly went down hill. We go for months and just out of the blue she will want it.

Not quite there yet, but almost. Have you tried seducing her, or dating her like in the old days when you first met?

Almost..but at least you get some monthly action. Id be lucky to get it once every 3-6 month's..thank goodness for the bathroom lock 😋

Longer for me. But there are other circumstances.

In 30 years you'll have ED and it won't matter any more. It's not that long... Really it isn't..?

No yet but soon

I think normal is probably 3 times a week

None at all
Thankfully, I'm not in one

Technically no, but your needs definitely aren't being met

Have u asked why she isn't in the mood more often

Not even borderline. But heading in that direction .

Sw is rife with men like this ...sad

I think that's just what it's like if you marry most women. They do generally not have that high of a sex drive, so it's normal.

You are in a lessSex marriage and not sexless. It could be that you do not know how to excite her for sex.

No Intercourse.

Definition of sexless marriage: Married to yourself or your own ideology.

Ideology example would be: Nuns.

No sex at all between the two partners.

You are in a Less Sex Marriage, Less than You Desire.

A sexless marriage is what it says no sex.

Yes