I guess to answer your question, I guess a low-sex marriage.
but on a more important note, would you two be open to marriage counseling ? intimacy is part of a marriage construct. She may have a low drive or may not feel connected to you, might be better not to assume you know why she isn't wanting sex with you.
You dont owe me an answer but internally maybe process: when you dated her, was her sex drive lower than yours? if so and sex is important to you (it is important to me too ) why did you marry her? If not what changed?
also for things you do not owe me an answer on but shoud internally process--what does she get out of sex with you? for example
* do you give her an orgasm ?
* do you bring toys into the bedroom (for her mostly)
* do you cuddle with her after sex or at other times without the expecation of sex?
*how much is foreplay part of intimacy for you both?
what else is going on in her life
* is she at a time with high anxiety in her life? financial anxiety being a big deal
and others
i am sorry for your pain
