How do you define a sexless marriage?

Is it no sex at all? Or how much sex is normal and how much is too little?

My wife seems to have a very low sex drive while Mine’s quite high. We have sex once every month and half maybe if im lucky. Am I in a sexless marriage?

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zonavar68 · 56-60, M

Mis matched levels of sexual desire ie libido are probably a common cause of relationships going out of sync with sexual connection and activity. Just my view from experiences I've had.

memakingfriends · 41-45, M

@zonavar68 seems like I’m experiencing just that.
I don’t know the solution.
I don’t want to cheat on her but I’m also super bored of jerking off.

zonavar68 · 56-60, M

@memakingfriends I find masturbation boring and largely unfulfilling, porn is boring. I basically feel unworthy of everything associated with adult love, sex, etc. now.

ArtieKat · M

@memakingfriends Have you talked to her about how dissatisfied you are? Is she a similar age to you (ie perimenopausal)?

memakingfriends · 41-45, M

@ArtieKat many times. She is very understanding and makes the effort after we’ve spoken. But it relapses soon too months without sex.
She’s 33 and I’m 40. We’re young and that’s why I’m so frustrated

ArtieKat · M

@memakingfriends I've no advice to offer I'm afraid. I certainly couldn't live in a relationship like that

zonavar68 · 56-60, M

@memakingfriends your ages aren't 'young' ;-) maybe you need to figure out if you should stay with her, presuming you think she is the problem not you. Are you contributing to what's going on somehow? How is not getting sex actually an issue if everything else is good?