I told him if we have children, we're going to add the months of pregnancy & breastfeeding and when I'm done he's going to be their primary caregiver

@Miram I told him that because I wanted to see if he's actually willing to be a parent. If and when this happens, nobody knows under shat kind of circumstances. However it is more iften than not that if a divorce occurs, the mother takes the children no questions asked. People take that for granted. For men, it's easy to say they want to have children. But are they really ready to give their all?
And adding to that, his job would make it easier to support having the kids full time. With my job, once you clock in sometimes you don't know when you're going to clock out.
Saying that, it's true I'm unsure if I'm fit to become a parent, but I'm sure that he is.

@BittersweetPotato I'm not ready to be a mother for sure but he's ready to be a father. I guess deep down I have a fear that most men do not really understand what being a parent entails.

@Renkon no that's not my loguc at all, you just made that all up. I'm a believer that children do not owe their parents. Children are willing to take care of their parents only if they have been properly taken care of. And that's unconditional.

@joe438 sure

@Chiefjustice I wouldn't mind having with him specifically.

@writhe well, it sounds like he's a worthy man.
Having a children is one thing.But raising them is the hardest part.
There's no manual instructions or training for it.
Every child is different, their needs are different. I was studied children for my university courses.

A mother's love, affection and touchI touch can never be replaced/ substituted by a father. A father must know his role as he plays a certain p
role in the upbringing of a child.

Helping in raising a child is crucial.

@Chiefjustice I disagree with the latter half of your message. A worthy man wants to raise children, not help raise. And a father's love, affection and touch is no different. That's why that journey should start when they're as young as possible. A mother cannot be replaced only as far as our biological differences are concerned. Mentally and emotionally fathers should strive to be as good as their partners.

@YoMomma not really. I think both parents should be competent on the same level and not be complacent. A lot of what's wrong with many societies is men unable to fully raise children.

@writhe men are fully capable just some don't care

@Lila15 good question. I'd have to communicate it more clearly. If he still doesn't respect my boundary, I'd be passive aggressive in a way to make him do it.
I also told him if we have children and get divorced, he'll take them.

@writhe o, u definitely shouldn’t have kids.

@lissah and you sound like you have low standards for men