I told him if we have children, we're going to add the months of pregnancy & breastfeeding and when I'm done he's going to be their primary caregiver

for the next months combined. After that we'll be even and do everything on the same level.
So if I'm pregnant for 9 months and nurse for 6 months, he's going to do most of the work for the next 15 months.

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Lila15 · 22-25, F

Makes sense. What happens if he flakes out?

writhe

@Lila15 good question. I'd have to communicate it more clearly. If he still doesn't respect my boundary, I'd be passive aggressive in a way to make him do it.
I also told him if we have children and get divorced, he'll take them.

Wiseacre · F

@writhe o, u definitely shouldn’t have kids.