I told him if we have children, we're going to add the months of pregnancy & breastfeeding and when I'm done he's going to be their primary caregiver

for the next months combined. After that we'll be even and do everything on the same level.
So if I'm pregnant for 9 months and nurse for 6 months, he's going to do most of the work for the next 15 months.

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BittersweetPotato · 31-35, F

It seems to me like you are treating your soon to be your children as some sort of an inanimate object that you need to maintain, and that the father of your children is not your partner but some sort of a contractor. Just because you were breastfeeding, it doesn’t mean that he was obsolete. Just because you were carrying the child, it doesn’t mean that he was useless. He can’t carry or breastfeed the child. The baby will need both of you when born. The way you talk doesn’t make it clear that you are ready to be a mother.

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@BittersweetPotato I'm not ready to be a mother for sure but he's ready to be a father. I guess deep down I have a fear that most men do not really understand what being a parent entails.