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Scousepeter · 36-40, MNew
@LexiIsMyNamey haha he will look so cute ,

KatyO83 · 41-45, F
My bfs son is 9 now. He's found it really difficult with his parents splitting up and being with others.

But 21? He should appreciate your needs
AgoodsonXT · 41-45, M
@KatyO83
Is more clingy to you with the separation
KatyO83 · 41-45, F
@AgoodsonXT no. I essentially stay out of the way, although that's more to do with his mum. She's been at times a flipping nightmare. So a weekend like this when his dad has him I don't really see them. We're slowly changing that I went to a big cricket game a couple of weeks ago.
Christine1126 · 41-45, F
I would say at his age he should understand you wants and needs a little better and should be happy you are trying to move forward. I’m sure right now he feels like he is the man of the house, man of your life and is jealous that he will be replaced. He just needs to know he will never lose that special mom and son relationship you two share
Christine1126 · 41-45, F
@SalttyDawg meaning?
BillyMack · 46-50, M
@Christine1126 he’s being pervy.
WowwGirl · 36-40, F
@BillyMack 👍
Realifecuckold · 61-69, M
My parents divorced when I was 5yo. My mom began dating right after her divorce came through, which occurred about one year after she separated from my dad. My mom began dating a man named Alex, who was a very nice man. She fell in love with him, and wanted to devote a lot of her attention to him. This made me very deeply jealous of Alex, but I really liked him also, because he was so nice to me and my mom. As a young boy, I know that I loved feeling jealous of Alex, and I loved having very deep feelings for him. But I also knew that Alex had a very different relationship with my mom than I did. He got to hold her and kiss her in ways that I could not, and he shared a bed with her. My mom would tell me not to come into her bedroom when she and Alex were in there together, because they were "spending special time together". All in all I was very jealous of Alex, but I was very happy for my mom, because I knew that Alex made her very happy, even though at my age I did not know all the reasons why. But your sons is 21 years old. Why is he not happy for you?
Northerner · 70-79, M
You should not feel guilty about dating. Maybe your son should think about his own future I had been married 3 years at your son's age. Still happily married by the way.
summalovin · 18-21, F
My parents got divorced when I was 9, I don’t blame him for how he’s feeling. My dad got married to his 2nd wife just 6 years after my mom’s divorce with him and I found out on instagram. His feelings are valid. Just give him time and introduce the person you’re dating if you know for sure he’s the one. Take it on step at a time gradually
Pretzel · 70-79, M
part of being a mom means you need to help him grow up.

right now he needs to understand that while he might have been the center of your world he is an adult

as you are - and you have needs

how would he feel if you told him HE can't date either?
subhubby · 56-60, M
I think it’s very appropriate and reasonable for you to want to date. I understand his hesitancy to accept but your happiness is just as important as his.
Casheyane · 31-35, F
Do you live together? Are you super close? You would have ideas on what his reasoning is. We don't know the whole picture.
Maybe he's being protective as he doesn't want you to get hurt. Maybe if the right man walks in then he would be able to earn your love and his trust. But then, that is a bridge you'd have to cross to know the ending.
I hope you find your happy ending :)
Cantsayno · 51-55, M
He needs to get over it. I started dating after my wife passed away from cancer 5 years ago.
I’m sorry but we need to live our lives too.
It’s not being selfish to put ourselves first sometimes.
Good luck
TravisTx · M
He’s a grown man now and should be able to understand that you have needs and are ready to move on and develop another relationship. I think he’s being a little selfish, tbh. I promise he will understand this, at some point, and I feel you should go ahead and date others. Four years is a long time to have waited after a divorce, imho.
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ninalanyon · 61-69, T
I understand that young men don’t want to think about mom dating or having needs
I don't understand why you find this understandable. My parents divorced when I was fourteen. It never occurred to me to expect that either of them would spend the rest of their lives without any kind of romantic, sexual, and cohabiting relationship.

Ask him why. Get him to think about it.
RebeccaJP · 41-45, F
@ninalanyon I was about 13 when my parents split. I also never even thought that either of them would stay single. They started dating other people kind of quickly.
Ramon67 · 61-69, M
After my last divorce my kids were not happy that I was dating again . I told them that while I respected their feelings , I was going to move on with my life .
RebeccaJP · 41-45, F
As harsh as it sounds I think your son needs to grow up and try to understand things from your perspective. I think that you should talk to him and tell him that you still have a lot of life to live, and you want a partner to share that with. I don’t think he needs to hear about your “needs” though! Go ahead and start dating. He has to learn that you want and need to move on.
Scousepeter · 36-40, MNew
@RebeccaJP well said
rhouse · 56-60, M
That isn't his decision. At that age, I am sure he will find a way to get over it.

Go enjoy your life.
Muthafukajones · 46-50, M
He needs to grow up! Mum is a person too… indeed she was a person before he was. If you’re happy that is all that matters.
You are your first focus, he will get over it. Because, deep down inside, he wants your very heart and soul to be happy. Who knows? Maybe he might warm up to the thought of a new man in your life
JesseInTX · 51-55, M
I’d say he’s going to have to get over that if he’s going to continue to live there. Mom needs to do what she needs to do.
He will get used to it eventually. He's got his own life to focus on and you got to move on and live your life.
Carazaa · F
Friends are good to have but be careful because if you marry it can bring potential financial devastation to your children. Husbands can come with their own kids and wives, and it can complicate life for kids.
peterlee · M
@Carazaa

I don’t think this is a matter of financial support.

I happily supported my wives children. One lived with us until he was 28. then I then loaned him money to get a flat.

The other needed a father badly. He took my nsme. His choice.
jerMIguy · 41-45, M
He is an adult. You need to do what you need. You don’t have to be rude or uncaring but you need to communicate to him that you will be taking care of yourself and he is old enough to handle it.
Crazywaterspring · 61-69, M
Does he date? Does he expect you to cook hamburgers for him while he plays video games?

Both of you are adults. Take care of yourself and your needs.
Zeusdelight · 61-69, M
Sounds like you and he need to talk more.

Whatever happens, he is probably going to be around longer. It would be freakish to find the one quickly.

Even if you did, I imagine you would still want him to be around.
3Dogmatic · 46-50, M
He’s a grown man, he will get over it. You need to take care of you.
Fallflower · 46-50, F
Kind of a bad message to send him: that you will limit yourself and not live your life because it makes him “upset”. His emotions are now controlling your life. That’ll probably make him a bad husband someday. Sorry.
peterlee · M
@Fallflower let us hope not
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updown2020 · 61-69, M
Well your son can move out and not witness it or go live with his dad well if he has not moved on already.
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pdockal · 56-60, M
He'll get over it
Just don't bring anybody home
Have your needs met outside his space
Teslin · M
He is old enough to understand "life goes on".
Is his dad dating ?
He is 21. You certainly don't need his permission. And he is definitely old enough to understand that mom can sometimes get a little horny too.
Scousepeter · 36-40, MNew
@looking4thesun hes probably a virgin
@Scousepeter a 21 yr old male virgin?? If that's the case she has bigger worries than dating
Scousepeter · 36-40, MNew
@looking4thesun haha. I bet he would listen
Adogslife · 61-69, M
Skip needs. He needs to respect your right to date. That’s not negotiable. That’s not his business either.

Tell him to stop being a mama’s boy.
KarateAaron · 46-50, M
So sorry to hear this. 🙁
Rockyy01 · 51-55, M
You deserve to be happy
samueltyler2 · 80-89, M
Is he in therapy? He should understand your needs.
AgoodsonXT · 41-45, M
You have earned the right to enjoy yourself without anyone making you feel guilty
SatanBurger · 36-40, F
Tell him to get over it, he's 21 years old time to grow up
It's a good educational experience for him. Show him you are human too. He will learn from it. Let him suffer.
Amy78 · 46-50, F
He’s old enough to understand that you have needs.
Bowenw · 61-69, M
Consider telling him you will stay out of his love life and you expect the same.
JohnnyNoir · 61-69, M
He needs to understand that you still have a life to live
eMortal · M
Haha I can't blame him. You're hot.
specman · 51-55, MVIP
He is just being loyal to his father. He sees someone else as a threat
AgoodsonXT · 41-45, M
Dm me please
AgoodsonXT · 41-45, M
@AgoodsonXT
I think I know what’s going on
QCDog2659 · 61-69, M
Your needs should be first
AgoodsonXT · 41-45, M
Maybe he’s jealous
samueltyler2 · 80-89, M
I really wonder why there are posters who seem to think they can post derogatory comments? Do they get their kicks from it?
samueltyler2 · 80-89, M
@Slicker24 first, why did you feel the imperative to reply? do you really think what you wrote is funny? Sorry, if that is your sense of humor, you have a serious problem!
@samueltyler2 If you do not like what I have to say you can always mute me.
samueltyler2 · 80-89, M
@Slicker24 good idea, i don't know what that means functionally, but you are now muted.
AgoodsonXT · 41-45, M
Have you asked him what’s on his mind
Convivial · 26-30, F
Nothing to do with him really
1490wayb · 56-60, M
the problem is his , not yours...tell him get over it

 
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