How to overcome fears

All those things you listed,.. you can not control any of them. The best you can rely on is your intuition, your gut feelings as to whether something feels right or not. Some fear you get from trusting your gut feelings is good, listen to it. (imho) you sound insecure (no offense meant) but with time you will build confidence by not letting worry and fear control you and instead trusting your gut feelings. It takes time because you can only learn from experiences. Take your time, enjoy what you can and let the rest follow. Living in fear or worry is a terrible thing and can also effect your judgement. You most likely already had some bad experiences with men. Learn and Trust what you felt about those situations so you can recognize them again. Move very slow into relationships. Try not to get caught up in the euphoria of a new relationship and not follow your gut feelings. Your gain more confidence. Confidence can/will replace some of the fear. Your can do this! 🙂👍🏻

Are you in therapy? If there’s one piece of advice I could give my 20-something self is get into therapy. I didn’t start going regularly until my mid 40s, but it has helped me a lot with my anxiety.

You have to put yourself first, the fears you have are inner child wounds. Heal them and you’ll feel better….

Because of this you’ll attract men that will take advantage of you, if you love yourself you won’t tolerate bad behaviour and you’ll attract better men in your life.


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So 2 options in my oppinion. 1) is self affirmation (focus on\think of all the good things about yourself as simple as im wearing a great top to as selfish as my ass looks great today. Concentrate on that. 2) think of their potential faults no ones perfect (level the playing field so to speak.) 3) i typically break the ice by telling a joke. I generally test the joke on neutral third parties first. And 4) try to remember there is no shortage of singles in the world.

Sounds like some past experiences might be talking to you. I hope those wounds can heal ♥.

You have to stop that or you will never open your heart. Everyone is scared of getting hurt but it's a risk you have to take

None of those worries are valid until youve started interacting. In time maybe but usually warning signs are obvious well in advance.

Stop talking to men focus on being a better version of yourself

Did you have a traumatic experience?

Only when talking in real life?