I think ppl that doubt and undermine themself often project the same or similar negative onto others. It makes them feel better about themself putting others down (elevating themself above others?)
It also seems to be about relationship experience, sobriety, self esteem, education and upbring; in my experience.

First thing to remember is that their criticism of you and their attempts to make you hate yourself is just projection. They are weak and insecure and they hate themselves. They are simply transferring that self hate and insecurity onto you because they are pathetic human beings who will never find a partner worthy of them.

Secondly, you're at fault for constantly falling for this deception. You're clearly attracted to this personality type, or you wouldn't keep getting involved with them. It's not enough to say they acted nicely to begin with, then guilt tripped you for mistakes you supposedly made. If all your partners have acted like this, then you're not noticing the red flags they are probably displaying. Before you choose another partner, analyse their behaviour and see if there's any similarities to those who have already abused you. It's not an easy thing to do, but you bear some of the responsibility for constantly finding yourself in this situation.

A person is not going to give you self love. You have to find love within yourself. Once you’ve mastered that, then you can learn how to not care what others think of you, and any negative people you get to remove out of your life, without hesitation. You teach people how you want to be treated.

Sorry that happend to you 😟

You don't need anyone else to help you, as nice as that would be 💚

having someone help is always better than doing it alone. However the inverse is also true. The wrong person and wreck a person more completely then can be done alone.

@sahi81 them sort who attack your self confidence and worth in yourself you do not need in your world. you need too keep clear and disassociated from them sort as they will bring you down

You select the wrong (potential) partners, I am afraid.

Their criticism simply shows they’re afraid of you.

why would u hangout with people like that

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